What would you do ? ( Hypothetical situation ) ?

Question

I’m your son ( age 11 -- 15 ), and I’ve been shoplifting, skipping school and neglecting my chores and my schoolwork . How would you punish me ?

Answer 1

put you on a sports team

you'll be distracted from doing mischief

and become less lazy

Answer 2

First I would try and find out why your acting the way you are. Of course your not going to want to talk about it cuz I'm your father. Next you go into lock down . I will give you the chance to earn privileges back . No yelling no hitting no screaming they don't work. One thing a lot of parents forget is that we were all teenagers at one time and some of us were as much of a pain in the *** as you . I will try and impress the fact that I was where you are now and I do understand .............. good luck

Answer 3

Been there done that.

I left my daughter at the Juvenile Detention Center when I was called and informed my daughter was there and I "had to come over and sign for her".

The judge asked me what I wanted to do. I said "keep her" obviously I have failed, maybe you all can do better. My daughter looked at me in total horror. She called out obscenity to me and I merely looked at the judge and said "See, she made my case".

I left her. She quickly found out it was better to be "outside" with freedoms and liberties to go to and from with the main responsibility being "to behave". Being "inside" took all that away.

She came out 36 months later a "changed person". She went on to finish school, presently working on her Master's Degree and gainfully employed for a Fortune 500 company. She was a minor so her records were "sealed" and the experience has made her a better parent with her children.

Answer 4

in America, you are not allowed to punish children anymore.

which is why we have children shooting up schools and building bombs, the parents see it coming, but the police and courts will only get involved if the parent tries to punish the child.

did you know if your 13 year old daughter decides to have s*x, and you put her on birth control, that will probably be child abuse?

but, if you do anything to stop her from having s*x, punish her, dont leave her alone, that will also probably be child abuse?

in most areas, they will only allow you to let her have s*x.

so the answer is, nothing.

Answer 5

What we call a wall to wall counseling session aka a bare knuckled beat down.  d**n I dont think that is legal.  I would starve you so you had no energy to do anything but sit in you seat at school.  d**n no good.  I hate kids.

Answer 6

First and foremost, you are grounded.  No tv, no video games, no computer.  Honestly, in my day my Dad busted my hind end for any and all of those things.  My son is 4 and he gets a spanking for talking back now.  He also gets rewarded for cleaning his room and helping me with what he can.  In this hypo situation I'm assuming you're just a bad kid who's rebelling against something, so along with the grounding you and I are gonna have a heart to heart.  Hopefully when my son gets to this age shoplifting isn't something he'd do, but no doubt he'll want to skip homework/chores.  As my son in this situation YOU WILL DO CHORES, if I have to walk behind you to get them done.  You'll apologize to whoever you stole from and you and I will go to the school and discuss skipping with principal, counselor, whoever.  I will "find a village" that will support me in raising you.

Answer 7

I would take you to the doctor because this type of behavior would let me know that something was very wrong--either drugs or some type of medical problems.  Punishment would not be my first thought at all.

Answer 8

You'd be grounded for a month so that if you weren't at school, you would be at home, even if you had made a prior commitment for that time, and you would do chores and homework, no TV, radio, video, or computer unrelated to school for all that time and if you skipped out on your grounding, I would find you, pick you up, and take you home myself. Plus, I'd take you to the police station and have an officer explain to you that while shoplifting seems small, it still is stealing and people still do go to jail for it(or juvie in this case) even if for a short time, and have you try a cell on for size, maybe for thirty minutes. All that "treating" does is tell the kid that if they do something wrong they will be coddled and  the fact of their having done something wrong and their needing not to do it again is not addressed. Words don't teach this. Consequences do.

Answer 9

It sounds like there is a definite lack of supervision with this child.  I would start by bringing my son to school to make sure he was going, or at least show him the importance of school and my commitment to making sure he gets and education.  Check his homework and communicate with his teachers regularly.  If he is resistant, sit with him while he does his work, perhaps he needs help with it.  I think that you can remedy behavior such as shop lifting by not allowing your child to go out unless they are with you or at school.  As far as punishment goes, I would majorly restrict my child's freedom.  He would lose privileges such as television, video games and computer/Internet access.  He would not be allowed to leave our home except to go to school or if accompanied by me.  There would also be no friends coming over or telephone.  In order to gain back those privileges he would have to earn it through appropriate behavior.

Answer 10

I wouldn't punish.  I'd treat.

Residential treatment program, wilderness therapy program, or something similar.

Answer 11

Spanking,spanking,spanking,although i have to agree with cja reply as well.