What would you do? I'm the Maid of honor for my best friends wedding.

Question

My friend is having a traditional Mexican Wedding. She asked me to be the Madrina (Godmother) of the Lasso (rope), which I believe is truly an honor. Now she told me that I'm not going to do that. She said that her sister is going to instead. I thought it was tacky of her. Should I tell her how rude that was?

Answer 1

I wouldn't if you would like to stay friends with her.  However, if this was so hurtful that you don't care to know her any more - have at it.

Answer 2

i think you should tell her how that makes you feel.

that is just to much.

you can't ask some one and then take it back.

Answer 3

Well if you are the maid of honor then you can't be the madrina de lasso. These are two different roles that would require for you to be in two different places in the ceremony. As maid of honor you stand near the bride to hold her bouquet and attend to her at the altar. As the madrina you would be seated at the pew until the priest asks for you to place the lasso on the couple. Maybe this is why she asked her sister to fill this role.

Answer 4

let her sister do it and just have a fun time at the wedding

let it go

it is your friend's wedding which means its her day to shine

meaning whatever makes her happy in the ceremony is what happnes

Answer 5

if you say something to her say it in a nice way bc you dont want to cause problems...you could just say you were looking forward to that role and it upset you when she changed the plans and wanted to know why things changed

Answer 6

U dont need to tell her.. i think ur friend understood u and gave it to her sister. just relax. u dont need to be guilty. and she might have forgotten it in the wedding. so plz dont remind her..

Answer 7

Even though I'm sure you are hurt by tis change of plans, its sort of tough to argue with her wanting her sister to be the "Madrina."  Bringing it up will probably just make you look like the bad-guy, so best to just accept it and move on.  ;-)

Answer 8

its kind of rude but maybe she and her sister are really close. Just dont worry about it.If you want to you could talk to her about it after the wedding and if she ask if she was a major Bridezilla

Answer 9

No...maybe she is obligated to use her sister...get over it...

Answer 10

No...you will only cause friction between the two of you.  Especially since you cannot be both.  They are two different roles and are to be two different people.  She may not have realized that herself when she asked you.  

Even if it was something you could do as Maid of Honor and she decided to have her sister do it, you should still not be upset or think it is rude.  People change their minds on things.  This is her wedding.  she did not take your primary role of Maid of Honor.  You should feel priviledged to have that role especially since she has a sister.  When you are in a wedding of a friend, even bf, and then they decide to use a family member for something instead of you, you should be a good enough friend to understand.

You definetly would not tell her before the wedding it hurt your feelings.  Down the road after, you could maybe mention when just talking one day.....you know at your wedding, it really hurt my feelings when......  Maybe she had a really good explanation to use someone in her family.  Maybe you did or said something to make her think you really didn't want to, so she thought she was doing it as a favor.

When in a wedding, you have to give a little tolerance and know there may be some things you are not quite happy with.  You just need to sit back and chill.  If you have not had one or planned one, it is a crazy time.  You don't have to take c**p and be treated crappy, but give a little room and chill.  You are still her bff!!

Answer 11

It was tacky, but my guess is that she was under pressure from her family. If you have already spent money on a dress, ask her to reimburse you.  Otherwise, enjoy the wedding.  I also wouldn't count on her in future to hold up her end again.