What would you do about a big hips situation?

Question

Well im 13 and i have kind of big hips, when i put a t-shirt on it makes me look fat because of it but its not fat because a can feel the bone. I hate having them because i hate what people probably think about me because i do get called fat by this girl. Please help me x

Answer 1

First of all, this is in the wrong section.

Second of all, the important thing is that you like you for you. By the time you get to be my age, you won't care what people think about you--and honestly, they won't care either. They will be too worried about how they look.

Don't beat yourself up over how you look. You are still very young, and have a lot of time ahead of you. Do you really want to waste years of your life dwelling on how your body looks?

Just be you!

Answer 2

dont worry its ok. big hips means your healthy! :) you shouldn't care what others think of you....you should use this quote "i dont care if you like me cuz i like me" :)))))))

Answer 3

I agree with Sand...wise words....you are growing up girl, that's all, we've all been through it and it can be tough, but you know what, I bet you're a really pretty girl and worrying over nothing.

Answer 4

I am going to answer this from a time and age perspective, and a memory of going through what you are going through (at the risk of sounding old)...

Trust me on this, you do not have an accurate sense of what you look like. Your body is morphing from a child's to a women's, and your brain and your feelings and your emotions are all out of line, as they try to grow up too. You are coping with hormonal changes, and you cannot assess yourself accurately. When you look in the mirror, how you see yourself is not how others perceive you, and is not how you truly look and definitely not how you will end up looking.

When I look back at pictures of myself during my early teen years and through my early 20's, I am amazed at how pretty I was, how I wasn't fat, how I didn't look chubby and horrible in comparison with everyone else my age. At the time, I was so self conscious, I looked in the mirror in horror, and went through years of feeling so terrible and ugly (although I hid it well). I wish I could go back and tell myself that I was beautiful and perfectly normal. But since I cannot, I will say it to you, because I know that it is true for you too.

You just need to realize, that you need to dress yourself a bit differently, emphasize different areas of your body to feel balanced, and know that your new shapely body is to be envied by those who aren't like you! Instead of trying to hide your hips, put your focus on your waist, on your hair, on the way pants, and skirts flow from your hips. Put detail and color by your neck with jewelry and collars, and color.

Wear pretty shoes.

And the biggest thing that I can recommend, that works without fail, that everyone will respond to, and will without a doubt make you instantly 100% prettier, is to smile, stand tall, walk with confidence, be friendly, .. when in doubt let your sense of humor take over. Don't worry, you will someday look at pictures of yourself now and see the truth in my words. Trust  this: You look dynamic and gorgeous. Now act like it and that is what others will see.

good luck (relax it's o.k.!)

Answer 5

your only 13,

your only young.

ignore what everyone else thinks,

your body is still developing.

xx

Answer 6

Wrong section, but you really can't beat yourself up about this.

You're young, and you're growing. You're right at the age when your whole body starts growing all at once.

The girl who's calling you fat is a moron. What business is it of hers how you look? If she bothers you again, the best thing to do, I've found, is play along - make it less fun for her to mock you. If she says, hey, you're fat, just say, yeah, I sure am! Boy, I'm just obese! Morbidly obese!

Obviously, you know it's not true, and she'll get a h**l of a lot less pleasure out of mocking you if you just assert some confidence! Like how you look - 13 isn't an easy age for anyone, and chances are, this annoying girl is probably going through plenty of her own c**p right now, too.

Stay tough.  

Answer 7

where black, it shows less curves and makes you look thinner....

she's prob. just jealous of you and really insecure....