What would you do/advise in this situation?

Question

if your son was bringing home a lot of different girls in the week and sleeping with them . you could hear them sometimes 'doing it' and he has openly admitted that he rarely uses protection .he is using girls like objects and just f**king them around .what would you do ?

he already has one child and he is only 15

please only sensible advise , my mum is driving herself crazy and we need some help.

Answer 1

well if my kid was 15 and like that, i'd set down some ground rules and if he doesn't listen then send him somewhere else. you don't need to put up with that c**p.

Answer 2

He needs some professional help like Dr. Phil. Meanwhile your mom needs all the support, comfort , care love and strength from you and friends to deal with this very difficult situation.

Answer 3

thats the parents house not his.  she needs to lay down the law and stick to it.  if not get some help from a counseler, bust up in the room when she hears him and make the girl leave,

Answer 4

It is hard to say until it really happens to you I guess, but I dont think I would allow my 15 year old to be having s*x in my home, if he wouldnt listen I would tell him that I would call the cops on him to have him removed from the house.

Hopefully he doesnt want anymore kids, but if he isnt being careful then it Will happen soon it sounds like.

That is Very disrespectul of him!

I would let him know that with him having to spend every penny on child support he was going to be living a sad life.

Answer 5

WOA! ok somebody needs to get some help! i hope you sort it all out

Answer 6

Your mom needs to put her foot down and set some rules for this boy.  He is only a boy.  He needs to understand the consequences of multiple partners!  Does he take care of the child he already has?  He needs to talk to someone who speaks about unprotected s*x, STDs, AIDS, ect.  He needs to know what he is doing to himself and to others.

Answer 7

She needs to stop letting him bring girls home. It's her house, her rules. My parents NEVER would have permitted me to bring boys home when I was 15. Actually, they never let me! I moved out when I was 19 and never did i bring a boy home to "do it". Your mom needs to set some rules and stick by them.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, it seems as though some of behavior has to be blamed on that fact that his mother has allowed it.  Personally, I would NEVER allow a child of mine to have s*x under my roof if not married.  I know that children will be sneaky and you can't always watch them.

Be supportive.  Why is he acting like this?  Was his father a user of his mother?  If father is not in the picture, than has his mother had lots of "boyfriends" over to the house?

I would suggest that he needs to be addressed about this problem and give some options.... Explain that his "girls" are not allowed in your house anymore...Tell him that he has to go to the doctor and get tested for sexual diseases....Also, consider going to his school counselor and talk with him/her.  They should be able to help you out.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Why are the girls even allowed in the house? Quit letting them past the door. She could also warn them about his behavior. I'm in shock that she let's him do that in her home.

Answer 10

holy c**p.  Well I think your mom should step up to the plate here and be a parent.  

He is only 15 and lives under her roof, she makes the rules.  Do not let him date or have girls over.  If he rebels and won't stop this behavior then she should try sending him to a boys school somewhere perhaps.  She should take some of his stuff away from him or something if he does not stop. Kick him out of the house and stop taking care of him if he won't follow the rules.  He will come around im sure if she does this.  However, if she continues to allow him to go on with this behavior without consequence then he will just continue

Answer 11

If he's s******g around like a testosterone-crazed mink, he needs to be reminded of where he stands in the family structure.  

Your mother needs to use the legal power a parent really has.  She is legally required to provide him with food, clothing, and shelter. It doesn't have to be fancy, it can be very minimal.

* He would come home from wherever to find his room stripped bare and the door removed, with a privacy currtain tacked over it.  He will have to earn the door back by his actions.

* His possessions would be in storage or sold. Legally, they were bought with my money and I can do what I want with them.

* There would be a desk for schoolwork, his books, a bed with the sheets stacked on it, and a small chest of drawers.

* He would have enough clothing remaining, of my choice, to wear to school and for chores on weekends. He will not be stylin' any time soon.

* There would be generic soap, deodorant and shampoo in the bathroom. Any brand-name goodies would be gone.

* His allowance, if any, would stop. If he had money in a savings account, I would remove it and put it in an account under my sole control. Legally, all his money is controllable by me.

* His meals would be nutritious ... and his choices are to show up at the scheduled time or go hungry.

* He would be informed that he is to go to school.

* If necessary,I would take him to court and have a judge order him to get some sort of job and help support his existing child.

* He would be informed that he will be taken to the local public health clinic for STD testing ever 3 months until he is 18 and no longer under my legal control.

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And if the little fool freaked out and threatened me, I would call the police and have him removed for domestic violence, assault or whatever.

Actually, I would call the police ahead of time, on the non-emergency number, and let them know that a major wake-up call is being administered to a 15-year oldwith delusions of masculinity, and that there may be a need for them later.

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Warning ... you will see a tantrum like you have never seen before.  Put away the breakables, and make sure you have a lock on your door.

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Note ... this also requires the adults to go through  some hassles. They have to strip the house of any booze, valuables the brat might try to sell, etc.  Your schedule has to be a training schedule for the kid.

Answer 12

Why is your mum allowing it to happen in her house ?

I know he will most likely do it anywhere but he is disrespecting your mum ...so why is she letting him ...when i was 15 my dad wouldn't let  any boy come to my room he even had trouble with it when i was 18 !

Answer 13

hey...that house of yours you call home isn't his, so my point is, ground him with rules, show him whose boss around the house.

kick him out of house if he would ignore this one...

sometimes people need to learn things the hard way, seriously...

Answer 14

do his medical checkup and show him how inner world of his body working...

i know there is always an alternate for every thing...

but all it matters is the believe in your religion, i never thing that any religion allows us to do such thing,

i am unable to suggest you to do any thing...

because many of my friends are also in this habbit, they allways say that this is the worlds worst habbit we addopted but they can't live without it, for no reason...

Protection is the major cause of increasing this bad habbit and unluckly all the protections are avalable so easily.

i can't suggest you any thing,

i want you people to do many and many activities what that boy likes.

make all the food, that means best food of his choice so that he can come on time and have a great meal,

make a little timetable, if he's late then just ask from him politely in biggning where were he,

realize him that you all want him, wait for him for the dinner untiel he came back home,

just divert his mind towards sports and other stuffs except s*x.

MOST IMPORTANT PART:

change your home, New Place New Life New Biggning.

Pray as much as you can, ASK HELP FROM ALLAH(GOD).

i am dam sure he will help you, but always ask late night after 2:30am.

its my experience too...

REMEMBER:

it will take lot and lot time to change wether he is 15 or what...

It will be very tuff in biggnning but later it will improve INSHALLAH...

my prayers are also with you people...

Answer 15

How did it get this far?

Someone needs to counsel him.................I mean professional counseling.

Why is your mother allowing him to bring home these girls?

No house rules?

He is only 15...............he does not know what he is doing to himself, and the consequences that follow........and somebody needs to drill them repeatedly in his head.

I am thinking about those children.