What would you do as a parent if you had a teenager son or daughter who became emo?

Question

What would you do as a parent if you had a teenager son or daughter who became emo?

Answer 1

Make him/her join a sport.. Haha..

It works for students hanging out with a bad crowd (if Emo is what you consider a bad crew). keeps them occupied and gives them something else to worry about rather than clothes and depression.

Answer 2

Well, that same teenage daughter could come home and say they were going to be a parent.  That would suck.  Or they could come home and say that they have a STD that will eventually kill them.  Or they could not come home at all.  What if that same son/daughter was taken, or decided to run away and live on the streets.

If my son/daughter became emo, I'd just be glad they were still an expressive child, who's well and safe at home.

Answer 3

Stop providing the money an emo needs to purchase black clothes/boots/music/.........watch the attitude wither.

Answer 4

It depends.  Are they dressing in the "emo style"?  That's not that huge of a deal in my opinion.  If their grades are slipping, their behavior has changed drastically and/or they are hurting themselves, then I would sit down and have a very serious mature conversation with them.  Something is obviously bothering them.  If they weren't willing to speak to me about it, then I'd get them into some sort of counseling or therapy.

Answer 5

Play nothing but top 40 music, and buy nothing black, gray, or with skuls on it. Hot topic is off limits and you should make them dye thier hair blonde. failure to accept these rules calls for water and/or food suspension

Answer 6

i think its important that a teenager shows there independence at this age especially with media and environment influencing them in every aspect. but usually the style isn't the problem or the music. (i have noticed its become more popular) but if he/she is shutting you out or appears to be self-harming thats not emo thats depression and should be taken seriously. also if this continues make sure he isnt letting grades slip and keep an eye on his friends to. if you try to deny a child their freedom of self expression it can seriously damage the self esteem.

Answer 7

let it be. As long as they were not doing anything dangerous then its fine. Kids need to experiment with their identity to discover who they really are.

Answer 8

get tehm help before they start cutting.It may look cool to them, but eventually the depression and the dark side thinking takes over eventually.

Answer 9

As long as the teen isn't causing harm to themselves or others, I don't see a problem with it.  Even adults go through phases of styles, it's all a matter of time, trends, and tastes.  

Teens always tend to go through awkward stages as they are trying to find themselves, and if I were a parent, I'd want to nurture that.  Adolescence is the best time for identity searching.  Knowing yourself and who you are gives you confidence, comfort, and security.

Answer 10

it's funny how they can become a genre of music.

Answer 11

My son went through the emo phase a couple years ago.  For the most part, I just let it run its course.  I did have a few rules.  No piercings or tattoos.  Wash-out colored hair gel only, which could only be worn on weekends.  Black "tripp" pants are not appropriate for every occasion, like weddings, family outings, etc.  And once a week, I got a "no black day", where he didn't wear black.

It lasted about a year, or a bit less, then he grew out of it on his own.

Answer 12

It's a phase. Identity formation. It would be unhealthy to try to stop it.

Answer 13

Well you should talk to them about it. ask why they are emo and what caused them to become emo. be patient with them and don't yell