What would you do-birth of baby

Question

My first baby-everyone was their at the hospital-all 15 of them. they stayed at my house, constantly bugged me, would not leave me alone ect.

now for the second baby I dont want anyone around except husband and my son.I live 6 hours from my parents(so if i call them during delivery they will come stay with us or in hotel) i live 1 hour from mother in law and 2 hours from father in law

I want a week atleast after baby is born before anyone comes to see us

I am tired of pleasing everyone else

what would you do? how would you tell people? I told my mom and she was mad that I would even think about her not being at the hospital

Answer 1

I kinda know how you feel. When I told my friends I was pregnant they all just assumed they'd be in the delivery room with me. I just had to be firm and tell them I was doing it on my own (the father wasnt there either but thats another story). The first couple of hours I had with my daughter were lovely, just me and her looking at each other. So your going to have to be firm and tell the family that you dont want them there, and that you want so private time with just you, your husband and your new baby to get to know each other. Good luck! :)

Answer 2

I dont blame you at all, [aside from the fact i currently live with my parents-] I know the same thing will happen when I go into labor. So im only having my hubby in the room and I dont want anyone in the room for a minimum of a half hour/hour so just me and him can spend some time with the baby. I cant manage any more then that cause almost all friends/relatives live 5-20 min. away from me and the hospital... -.- And I want some time before my MIL sees him becuase shes had become overly obsessive of my pregnancy.. so I dont get some time with him first I probably wont get to hold him for the first day or so -.-

Answer 3

I felt like this just last week.  My first week home from having the baby people were popping up at my hospital room, at my home and everything.  Geez what was I to do?  I called my mom, whom which is my best friend and told her how I felt.  She took it upon herself to pretty much "man" the door at the hospital and my home.  Because there were no locks on the hospital door, I was unable to truly control the people that came in.   Look just explain to them that you don't want company and that you just want some time to adjust to having the second baby at home.  As for the hospital, allow your mom to be there, allow her to be support, but for everyone else, tell her that you want her to control that part, it may make her feel better about what you said.