What would you do if.....?

Question

1. your child cursed

2. your talked back

3. your child lied

4. your child stole

5. your child said something deliberately hurtful

I just want to hear some ideas on discipline for these things.

thanks to everybody who answers

Best answer will be chosen

Answer 1

1. A swat on the butt

2. A swat on the butt

3. A swat on the butt

4. A swat on the butt

5. A swat on the butt

Answer 2

1. Corner

2. Corner

3. Corner twice (time for what they did and time for lying)

4. Corner

5. Corner

It's worked so far, my children generally do not curse, talk back, lie, or say anything deliberately hateful. They have also NEVER stolen anything.  (I say generally  because they are human and as all humans do, no matter how wrong they know it is, make mistakes through spontaneous actions, in other words....spit happens as the wonderful bib used to say).

Answer 3

1. I would tell him/her that those words are very ugly words and they should never be used towards anyone and I would take away something of value to them from them.

2. If my child talked back to me (which better not ever happen) then I would ask them who they are talking to and firmly tell them to go their room and put them on punishment for a few days.

3. Punishment, taking away valuables and explaining to them that lies only lead to more lies and chastize them accordingly.

4. I would make him/her take it back and suffer whatever consequences that there are for stealing.

5. Tell them it was hurtful, ask them how they would like it if someone said it to them and punish them.

Answer 4

My perants had the same problem with my brother and made all the wrong descisions first.

1) Millitary school....just gets the child upset and makes him/her feel like they are not wanted

2) Dont try to take away an object at value(computer, videogames) my brother found where my dad would hide his game boy and just wait till he was home alone to use it same with the computer.

3) My perants tryed sending him to therapy lessons once a week...he just cursed at the therapist until she stoped asking him questions and asked my mother or me questions.

4) The only thing that worked for my brother was to try to spend more time with him..not all at once...but once in a while my mom would see a movie with him...the family would go out to dinner. It helped his self estem and let him find other ways to release him anger besides flipping out at whoever said something unperfect.

Answer 5

1. your child cursed- Cursing does not offend me, so I'd get over it.

2. your talked back- It depends on the situation. Children should be able to speak their mind within reason and express their opinions. If they are being rude, I'd simply tell them I will not hear their side of the story until they can discuss it in a civilized manner.

3. your child lied- Again, it depends. Lying takes a certain type of punishment too. If I knew they were lying, I'd think of a clever way to let them know that I know they're lying and punish them for it.

4. your child stole- Depends on the age. If they're little kids, I'd ground them or tell them it's not right. If they were teens, I'd let the cops handle it.

5. your child said something deliberately hurtful- Depends on the situation.

Answer 6

1. If it was the first time they've ever said it, I would explain to them that it was not good to say (if they're younger) and if they're older (8+) they'd get a big drop of vinegar on their tongue. If it slips out (they just stubbed their toe or hurt something) I wouldn't make a deal out of it. If they did it when they were ticked off they'd be sent to their rooms with NOTHING.

2. Talking back gets them a one way ticket to their rooms. It won't be tolerated at all.

3. They lie, they will be lied to. They would not be allowed to do anything "special" for awhile. And it would come to be harsh for them. They might ask to do something, and I would say yes, and then when the time comes I would say no and explain to them that lying sucks.

4. If they are young (7 or younger) and take something, they will go back to the store and will talk to the manager and will pay for the item. If they are 8 or older, they'll be taken to the store and after that's over they will be taken to the police station (if there's an officer available I would ask that they talk to them).

5. If they say something deliberately hurtful, they will be punished severely. They will be sent to their room to bring everything out of it except a change of clothes and a blanket on the floor, and will have that until a serious change in behavior is seen.

Answer 7

1. your child cursed I would make him/her (though I doubt my 3 year old daughter would but my five year old son migth)say sorry and sugest a different word instead of that one like insteade of dam say darn

2. your child talked back send him/her to his/her room

3. your child lied sit him or her down and make him or her tell the truth

4. your child stole make him/her give it back and admit they did it and make them say sorry

5. your child said something deliberately hurtful make them say sorry to whom ever they said it to and have a little talk with them

Answer 8

1. If my child cursed, I would explain to them that cursing is offensive to some people and should not be done in public or around those who find it offensive. Depending on the age of my child, I may tell them they are not allowed to curse around me, and no matter what I should not hear about him/her doing it at school, with other parents, etc. If they did curse in front of me or I was informed that they had cursed, I would punish them by taking something they love (a favourite toy, going out with friends) away from them for an undetermined amount of time (until I feel they've learned their lesson).

2. If my child talked back I would tell them that I appreciate hearing their opinion but they need to do it in a respectful way. If they did it again, I would use the same punishment listed above.

3. If my child lied, I would let them know how much it hurt me and how wrong it is. I would tell them all the ways lying can hurt people. And then I would use the same punishment from before.

4. If my child stole I would make them take whatever it was back and suffer the consequences of law. If they were too young for the law to get involved, I would, you guessed it, use the same punishment as before.

5. If my child said something deliberately hurtful I would explain to them why it is bad, mean, etc. I would tell them that hurting people is the number one thing they should not do. I would tell them that hurting people is the one thing all religions agree is wrong, and explain to them how they are hurt by it, too. If they did it again, same punishment as before.

When taking something away from a child as punishment you should never let them know how long it will be. Just tell them it's until you want to give it back. Children should not see the end of the punishment, because then they will focus on that, not what they did wrong.

Answer 9

I would do the same thing as the first person said!

I agree with the first person!

1. I would tell him/her that those words are very ugly words and they should never be used towards anyone and I would take away something of value to them from them.

2. If my child talked back to me (which better not ever happen) then I would ask them who they are talking to and firmly tell them to go their room and put them on punishment for a few days.

3. Punishment, taking away valuables and explaining to them that lies only lead to more lies and chastize them accordingly.

4. I would make him/her take it back and suffer whatever consequences that there are for stealing.

5. Tell them it was hurtful, ask them how they would like it if someone said it to them and punish them.