What would you do if this happened to you?It's long?

Question

I was really good mates with these two girls and everything seemed to be going fine after a year. But after that they started getting a bit off with me and started hanging out with other people, they practically ignored me and I had to keep running after them. So I started hanging out with other people too, then one of them came and talked to me one day claiming I had been telling the people I was hanging out with that they ditched me (which is what they actually did but I didn't say that to anyone), so I said that was probably what it looked like. They said that I should have told them I was feeling that way.I said that I trued but they were too busy with their new friends, I felt like i was just being thrown out. They said fine and walked away. Now anyone who is their friend gives me funny looks around school an people keep coming up to me saying I should say sorry to them. I don't know what to do. Luckily now school has finished, and I'm moving school but I'm finding it hard to let go. They were such good friends before. When I said I was leaving (because I was moving house) they put together a collage of all the good times and pictures we took. I don't get it, one minute they hate me and now I think they only did it because I was leaving. When I had fallen out with them, this happened and I hated them even more: I share a cooking class with one of them and we're partners but in the middle of the lesson she had to go to her instument lesson. She left all the washing up and cleaning to me but it was ok because she had to go. Then she came back at the end of the lesson and said 'My violin lesson was cancelled so I just walked around school for a bit' (teachers did not hear) then went 'oh you finished all the washing up, I was going to help you!'. But somehow I go to my room to rip away the pictures, or to delete pictures on Bebo, Facebook and my space and I can't do it. I can't delete the pictures of us on my phone nor their phone numbers. Even though they were in the end really nasty to me.

Sorry it's a bit long!

Answer 1

Something pretty similar to this happened to me but with one person. She was sort of one of the more 'popular' girls in my year and outside my usual circle of friends. For a time we were really close friends but I think she felt that when people saw her being friends with me, those people would not want to be friends with her. It was almost as if I wasn't cool enough for her. I tried to keep tagging along with her, but she just got so fed up with me. I talked to my proper friends and they made me realise that I should just leave her to her cool friends. A real friend is someone who likes you for who you are, not what clothes you wear, or the music you listen to. I know it's hard to let go but they were obviously not good reliable friends. I would get rid of your photos, every time you look at them, you will not only remember the happy memories but how nasty they were to you. Just start on a blank canvas for your new school and you will realise what real friends are.

Good luck for the future xox

Answer 2

Tell your friends that people change and they should get over it.  They're wasting their time dragging you down with them, and it's BOTH of your fault if you guys split apart.

It's ok that you still want to keep a piece of them with you.  They were your good friends and it's hard to let go.  But hanging around them is too much time and energy wasted.

Answer 3

Perhaps you should just make up with them but keep you're distance. You're moving house so obviously you won't have to be as close to them as you were before so this won't be a problem for you.

You obviously love them as friends but will make new ones at you're new school i'm sure.

I'd make the effort to make up with them just so that you leave on good terms!

Good luck! You've been very mature about it and i'm sure everything will turn out okay for you, these things just take time!!