What would you do if this was going on in your house?

Question

There's Me,my fiance,His mother,and brother living here. His brother is starting to p**s us all off, why? b/c all he does is sleep,eat,go out all night,just got a car he cant afford,and no job, On top of all of that, it's impossible to get/make a phone call in this place b/c of him, he has about 6 people calling him everyday and night,and then he throws a fit if we confront him about it, or he says okay but does it over and over again.But see i am 16 weeks pregnant,and waiting for my blood test results from my doctor,and my family is across the country and i don't have a cell phone,and my fiance is waiting on a phone call about a job he's trying to get, my fiance's mother is waiting on phone calls from their family, and we can't sleep at night because the phone ringing off the hook,and its really starting to get on our last nerv, so what is your guys advice about this huge problem?

Answer 1

tell his lazy *** either he starts helping out or her gets the h**l out there are people trying to get jobs and finding out important information . he either grows up or moves out  . or you and your man move out .

besides you have to ask your self do you want OuT raise a kid in that environment

Answer 2

move out. Be \the adult you think you are. You are going to have a family, time to take responsibility and get your own home.

Answer 3

9:00 pm unplug the phone, take it to bed with you.

Don't worry about the car, this is his mothers problem.

16 year old eating, sleeping  typical, not uncommon this too is the mothers problem.

The mother has typical teens living at her house. Are you one of these teens? Do either one of you work? Many women work and are pregnant.

If you two do not work, hanging out at the house all day, do nothing but complain it might be best to get a bus ticket back to your own family.

This would not happen at are house.....we have rules here.

Answer 4

First of all, and this might get me a thumbs down, but it's really not YOUR place to do anything. The one who has the most say so in the household would be his mother.

What you might want to suggest to your fiance and then let him tell his mother is that since the boy has no job and doesn't seem like he wants to get one, then you all should stop enabling him. With current gas prices, he's getting money SOMEWHERE.

My mom just went through this with her 24 year old step-son. What they finally did is they stopped doing anything at all for him. They stopped giving him money (unless he was going to look for a job, even then they would take his car and put gas in it to make sure that's what he did - sometimes they even took him themselves), they stopped washing his clothes (even took the detergent away from him), they even got to the point where they were hiding toilet paper and soap from him.

Someone in that house is enabling him to live the way he does. When the new baby gets there, you need to think about is he still going to be there? Are you even going to still be there? If he is and if you are, you need to lay down some ground rules about the phone ringing all hours of the night because there is a baby in the house trying to sleep.

As for the phone, who is paying the phone bill? You? Your fiance's mother? Your fiance? Take the phone away from him, take the cordless to bed with you if you have to. AND change your phone number if it comes down to that to keep people from calling all hours of the night. Remind him of the fact that he is not paying the phone bill much less anything else in the house, so using the phone, for him, is a privelage, not a right.

My best advice for you, your fiance, and your fiance's mother is to stop enabling him. Stop making it so easy for him to live there. Stop giving him money, stop going out of your way to make sure he's got food. Sooner or later, he will get off his a** and grow up. Trust me, it'll get harder before it gets better.

Again, and I can't stress this enough, stop enabling him. The only reason you guys should be giving him anything is if he is making a real effort to contribute to the household. Once it gets hard for him to make it day to day because things aren't handed to him - he might just straighten up.

Answer 5

OMG that would really get on my nerves. If he is over 18 yrs. old sounds like he needs his own place. If he doesnt work then he's not helping pay the bills. Not helping with the bills gives the ones who pay the rights over the phone. He needs a good swift kick in the arz and someone needs to put there foot down now. The more you all let him get away with it the more he will use you. Tell him he has one month to get a job and straighten up or he's out. Also throw in there that you are pregnant and dont need the stress. Also maybe everyone need to sit him down at the same time instead of one on one. This way he just cant say ok and walk away. Good luck :)

Answer 6

Thats easy...kick him to the curb!!! If thats not an option make life real uncomfortable for him...ie take all house phones into your bedroom where he has to come and ask permission to use them(like he should anyway)If that dosent seem to be a solution,maybe talk to his mom if shes living there as well shes gotta remember that being pregnant is a time when you need less stress not more.Why isnt your hubby doing anything about it?Thats really his place since its his family there.Good luck hun!

Answer 7

Set a phone curfew. No calls after a set time (its 9PM at my house). If anyone calls, immediately pick up the phone, tell them to call before 9 (or agreed time) and hang up on them. If it continues to be an issue, take the phone off the hook at night. The only people that call my house after 9 are stupid telemarketers and family if its a true emergency (someone is in the hospital). As for the brother, whoever is responsible for the house needs to get him in line or kick him out.

Answer 8

If It is your house GET RID OF HIM, If its the mothers house MOVE OUT.

GOOD LUCK MATE

Answer 9

leave

Answer 10

the modern this is a cell phone and well sounds like your fiance has no job either and and give it a day and then call the doctors office and they will tell you and well his mother is the one who needs to jump on him as since everyone decieded to live in one house then you will have to put up with it till you move out or his mom says something cause it is not your place to jump him

Answer 11

Kick his brother out.