What would you do if this where you?

Question

If your son's father left you when you where pregant . he only came around after the baby was born for about four weeks. then gone for eight years. you bump into his mother in a store and exchange phone numbers. you let the father see your child only when you are presant. Is this wrong. Should I let my so go with his father without me? his father lives with his mother and he has no job, no money and last year someone tryed to kill him. he has a P. O . he has to report to every week for a crime I dont know about. he wont tell me why he was shot or why he has a P.O. officer or about anything that has happen in his life for the past eighr years. He's a starnger to me and my son. I dont want to be the reason he leaves again, but I just can't bring myself to let my son be alone with him. I dont want to hold my son back from his father because of what went on between him and me, so I am torn. do you think am wrong about not letting my son go with him without me? is he seeing his son only with me fare? Yes when I look at him I still love him and we have had s*x twice and I know I was a dumb *** FU_K for it and I dont want to be his woman I just could not help myself. I will not let it happen again. He is not the man GOD has for me and I know it. I feel so cheap for doing it. I let my son down, and myself. What should I do people? am I only trying to make some excuse up to be around him by saying I have to come too or would you feel like you nedded to be there for your child? Please no nasty remarks this is no laughing matter.

Answer 1

i have a daughter & if i was in your situation,i wouldn't let her go without me.you havn't seen him in 8yrs.he's hiding things from you.he's lying.someone tried to kill him.sounds dangerous.contact his po .get info.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If possible try to fix the problems between you and your husband and live happily from now. I am saying this only for your child, he needs both of you.  

Answer 4

Even thou he is fater of your son you dont even know what he has been doing in last 8 years.. if he is involve in anti social activity than what will happend to you and your child.. as it is he is not paying any attentation to you so he dosenot have any feeling for you.. he is coming often to and your child for his mental releif not to share the resposability please study the matter and than decide how to go about the relationship...

Answer 5

Hi,

Just move on..you sound to be sweet and sensitive and you deserve someone better

Cheers

Answer 6

your son does need a male role model but the guy who's his father sounds dangerous, i wouldn't want any child to be around someone with a  parole officer. what your doing isn't unfair to your son and you should continue to let him visit his real father with you. But i wouldn't want to get too involved especially if someone is trying to kill him  

Answer 7

You have to face the fact that this guy cares for no one but himself and even that is kind of sketchy. The last thing you want to do is trust your child in this losers unsupervised company because he can't take care of himself much less your child. Your a good sensitive decent person and he's simply never going to be any of those things so get on with your life and make a good life for your child. I know you have this vision of him suddenly turning it around and caring about you and your child but realistically if he was going to do that he already would have so any noise you hear from him at this point is simply lies and do you really need to put you and your baby through more of same disappointment. Make a clean break and start living the better life you deserve.