What would you do if you found out that your spouse was cheating on you?

Question

Would you call there lovers wife/husband and tell all or would you just settle matters with your spouse

Answer 1

First you have to ask yourself do you want to cause trouble for someone that has no idea (their lovers other half). Second i would confront both my spouse and the one he is having the affair with ask what the h*** is going on. Third you have to ask yourself do you want to take a chance on staying with someone who cheated on you.  

Answer 2

Settle it with my spouse privately.

Answer 3

well i would never tell you to leave your husband are wife.however if he are she is cheating this needs to be addressed.its not the person he cheating with its about you and him not her are him.if there was a problem he are she should have came to you in the first place but this don.t always happen.they talk to other people instead of talking to the one involved in the situation.don,t call the other person work this out with your mate.

Answer 4

castrate him

Answer 5

I would get out my frying pan and tell my hubby to run before I hit him with it.  

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Firstly, I divorced my husband.  Secondly, I called who I thought was my best friend, and calmly told her I knew about the affair.  I expressed my disappointment and shock in a mono tone, but after she cried hysterically, called herself every bad name under the sun, I forgave her.  Ex hubby and ex friend are not worth my time, but they are not worth me getting cancer later in life because of bitterness.

I'm now living peacefully and happily as a single.

Answer 8

My husband left me last month and I found out then that he had been seeing someone, I made it perfectly clear to her that I felt she was pond scum and that she was beneath me...and that if she even as much as drove past my house in the wrong way I would file for a restraining order...it has been put in my divorce papers that she is interfering with my divorce and that my son is to have 0 contact with her, since my husband is such a tool that he has him around the Betch!  Be sure to tell her to enjoy your leftovers.

Answer 9

I would be settling matters with him. He is the cheater. What would you say to her. You can have him come get his **** would be all I could think of.  

Answer 10

Im not very tolerant about things like that.  I would get a divorce asap.

Answer 11

well, i would do the same as my spouse,whats good for the goose is good for the gander.why should your spouse be the only one getting it?

Answer 12

Treat others as you wish to be treated.

Answer 13

Start the next chapter of my life....and leave the loser crying in the dust.

Answer 14

I would confront him with it and demand resolution, even if it means making him move out.

Answer 15

I'd have my lawyer settle things with my soon to be ex spouse.  

Answer 16

Confront your spouse in a nonviolent, reasonable way. Be calm. Be decent. Be civil. And ask them why they're cheating, and what you could improve to make the marriage last longer and be more durable.  

Answer 17

Leave him alone and start a new life with someone who knowss what the words trust and commitment means

Answer 18

When I talk I tend to get flustered, but I would definitely text or e-mail their lover and ask them do they not have any shame with getting involved with a married man, etc. Then I would tell my husband he has less than 24 hrs. to get the h**l out.

Answer 19

Leave my spouse. I dont play that cheating stuff. No need to tell their spouse. They will find out their own way.  

Answer 20

I would chop his doodle off then leave him. At least he could never cheat on anyone else that way!

Answer 21

I did find this out, we are working through it. I did contact her, once with a handwritten letter delivered by me to her at her work, once by phone and twice by email. I will not tolerate her. We are settling matters ourselves but I will let her know if I have to that her husband poaching ways are not acceptable

Answer 22

Golden Rule. If you were having an affair would you want the person's spouse to call your spouse and rat you out?

Just deal with it internally.  

Answer 23

When people cheat they eventually get caught. When they get caught, it involves a whole lot of people, not just the man and woman doing the cheating. There's the spouses, the kids, the grandparents, the friends and the list goes on. They all end up involved anyhow, whether you or someone else calls them. The easiest way to avoid these problems is DON'T CHEAT.

Answer 24

Take a bullet to his head....

Answer 25

I would do both and settle matters with anyone and everyone involved. I want to know it all and the other person has the right to know as well!  

Answer 26

You know these days people don't care if you tell them but people are super shocked when you say nothing nothing at all to any of them esp your cheating azz so I would just find a safe friend to vent to and keep quiet for now.

He continues to cheat quietly pack his stuff, hire an attorney to serve him divorce papers at his cheating lovers home when you know he will be there w/ her, set his items out on the steps a bit after he has been served, don't talk to him/open the door, or allow him to speak to you and let the games begin.  

He will be shocked that you quietly and in such a mature way took care of this matter in your own way, he most likely will NEVER forget your actions and lets just say when he comes begging you back you can smile w/ confidence knowing you are a badazz ;~)

Answer 27

In the past I called the girl.  Boy did that make him mad (how dare you! he said)  Now I would pack his clothes and be happy someone else was stuck with him and then be on my merry way.  (I already have the bedroom set I would buy)

Answer 28

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