What would you do if you found out you were pregnant with your ex's baby?

Question

Serious answers cause this might be the case for me.

Answer 1

Hmmm tell him and work out a plan of what you want to do.  

Answer 2

First, I would contact him to let him know the situation..Then get a paternity test.  From there, you'll have to decide about custody and child support, or possibly getting back together with your ex.  Do what's best for the child.  There are always other options as well.  

Answer 3

tell him but don't be with him just cause... you deserve to be happy... go to a planned parent hood together to talk about your options especially if you are not planning on keeping it...

Answer 4

Weigh your options and your beliefs, go to planned parenthood and really decide if you are ready to be a single mom.  If you decide to keep it they can refer you to doctor if not, then you talk to someone about alternatives.  Good luck.

Answer 5

My friend had this same thing happen to her she was not sure and since the baby has been born she realizes her daughter does NOT look like the guy she is with now.

She asked him for a test but he refuses to take one.

I guess it depends on your ex how do you think he would feel? I would defiantly let him know you think its a possibility  

Answer 6

Every situation is unique and special. You'll have to decide how you want to deal with your ex - but trust your instincts about him and remember to be honest.

The one thing I would like to point out is that although this may feel overwhelming and scary (it is) but its not as bad as you think. Millions of women have done this before you, and done it with grace. As evidence they have written books about it, made movies about it, live 3 houses down from you and are willing to talk about it. There is a whole wealth of support out there for you - women who know what you are feeling and are there to help you deal with it.

You aren't going to find the answer on this page - you are to unique and it's impossible to guess you true circumstances. Just remember to be diligent and seek the support and love that you need. There are a million answers so start sorting through them soon and find which ones are right for you. God bless you and good luck, sweet heart!

Answer 7

I'd have a baby, work out child support and shared custody, and give my child the best life I could manage.  

Answer 8

hm.. well i would definitely tell him after you found out if ur really pregnant or not. But dont listen to these other people. Just cause some perverted guy had s*x with you, doesnt mean that he now has control over YOUR kid. If you dont want him in your babies life, then that is your right. It is your kid. You have to go through the pain of childbirth. So dont let that stupid guy think that he has control over your little baby. Its your baby, not his.

Answer 9

Hey, I am 9 weeks pregnant with my exes baby! It has been a hard road, and I am still not 100 % sure what Im gonna do. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I would have the baby, love him/her unconditionally. And if my ex chose to be in their life, then I would allow it.

Kids are absolutely amazing. I have said this before, and I'll say it again.. I thought I knew what love was, but I had no clue. Having my son showed me what love really is, and I can guarantee you that you would never love someone as much as your own child, and no one will ever love you as much as your baby will.

You should talk to your ex, and let him know that you are pregnant. That is his child too, and he deserves the right to know about him/her.