What would you do if you found out your husband sent naked pic's to another woman?

Question

I need help/advice, please. Long story short, I checked my husband's phone and noticed that he sent a pic of his private's to some girl that I dont know. He dosent know yet that I know. What should I do? I'm currently 7 months pregnant and dont want to be a single mom but I can't handle his lies and cheating. What do I do/say to him???

Answer 1

If you were not pregnant and found out that he sent his private parts to someone you don't know and you found out, what would you do then?  I suggest that you do the same thing now.  Yes, I do know that you are pregnant and you don't want to raise the baby by yourself, but think about your baby.  If he is doing this now, what makes you so sure that he hasn't been doing this for a long time?  You being pregnant has no bearing on his using his phone for this type of behavior.  Do you have family  close by?  I would suggest that you not confront him, but you can delete his contacts on his phone without his knowledge.  When he discovers this, he will really wonder how this happened.  You don't have to confront him on this ,as I do know you are very upset about this.  He was in the wrong to do something like this and  to put you in this situation.  You did nothing wrong.  You could accidently get his phone wet.  Now I know this is something that is kinda drastic, but he needs to know anonomously that this is unacceptable in your relationship. If push comes to shove, take refuge with someone that you trust, family, friend, or someone that can help you deal with your feelings and the actions of your husband.  Good luck sweetie!  Remember, this is not YOUR FAULT just because you are pregnant.  Married men who are soon to be father's should not being doing such things.  It is NOT normal.

Answer 2

I would post the picture on the internet and dump his sorry *ss...

Sorry! :(

I know you probably are feeling very insecure, pregnant and all. I get that you don't want to be a single mother but it seems obvious to me that he either was cheating or intended to. Just tell him you can't handle it.

There's not much to do.

Oh and file for child support

Good luck

Answer 3

Don't jump to conclusions... Just calmly ask him what he is doing.Don't tell him you looked through his phone because he might get upset and try to turn it around of you. Just tell him you were looking for a number and came across it. Hopefully he will be honest and tell you. However you did say you cant handle his lies and cheating which leads me to believe this isn't the first time he has done something to make you question him.

In the end this is your husband so you have to decide if its worth trying to work through this or if you are better off without him. Dont let the baby keep you from doing what you think is right.  

Answer 4

dump his a.s.s i really dont think its that hard

Answer 5

Confront him about it!    You need to do what's best for you and your baby.  Would you rather be a single mom or raise a child with someone that is a bad role model?  Tell him to shape up or ship out!

Answer 6

wow i feel horrible for you, im soooo sorry! you poor thing : (

i hope you dont plan on giving your baby his last name then. my cousin made that mistake and she regrets it every day. same situation but he basically did it right in front of her. but once you do that he has the right to custody (in new york state) just as much as you do.

i would probably cut his p***s off. nooo im not crazy just kidding.

he would definately get his *** kicked to the curb though. there is no possible way of getting out of that one. child or not, they dont deserve to grow up around that. they will just repeat the vicious cycle. i wouldnt want my child around that but im sure everyone has a different opinion, which i respect.

good luck to you, i hope everything works out the way you want it to.

Answer 7

Well if this isn't an isolated incident then i would start thinking about divorce. If it hasn't happened before, talk to him. But if he is going to be lying and cheating and stressing you out its not worth staying with him for the baby. he can still be in the babys life and love and cherish him but being with him and being upset all the time isn't good for the baby.  

Answer 8

Talk to him about it. Dont be afraid. I'm sure he cares about your baby as much as you do.

Answer 9

Dear, it's time to talk divorce.

You had a similar problem a month ago.  You caught him lying about meeting up with a girl.

It's better to be a single mom than to have that douche bag around.

Answer 10

Hire a private investigator to determine the extent of his affair.  Start socking away as much cash as you can without him noticing.  After you get the report from the PI you can confront your husband and decide if you two want to try counseling.  Continue to save money without his knowledge, just in case.  Document everything in a notebook that he won't find.  Note the dates and times he is gone with no explanation, the date you found the pictures, the phone number it was sent to, any other information that can be used against him if it needs to.  You and your child can be just fine, with or without him.  Good Luck!

Answer 11

I would definitely confront him. Ask him what his motivations were, what his relationship is with this woman, and what you two can do together to work it out (if that's what you want). Personally, I think it would be better to leave him than to be disrespected like that, but I know some people really believe in saving their marriages and also in being able to parent together.

When you talk to him do it in a way that's not neccessarily confrontational. Don't yell or get up in his face about it, just tell him you want to discuss it because it worries you. Remember you have a right to your feelings and if you consider this cheating, then he has cheated on you.

Answer 12

I agree with "Almost-A-Mom"... I would probably do something to that effect myself.

You said yourself you cant handle his lies/cheating - Well, don't. You've got a beautiful baby to focus on and care for.

There is NO GOOD EXCUSE he could possibly come up with for doing that. What? Is she is doctor or something and he had a question? I don't think so.

You don't need that kind of stress and BS. You could do so much better than that.

I'm really sorry that is happening to you.  

Answer 13

I would confront him first of all, and I would much rather be a single mother than to be walked all over, and treated like dirt.  Let him explain, but don't believe the bull.  Tell him to leave and if you want to work it out get counceling.

Answer 14

o gosh..m sorry dear..well a lot of times men tend to cheat on wives when they are pregnant and not available sexually (sad but true)..I think just because you dont wanna be a single mom, you cannot take this..would you keep ignoring such behaviour if it continues even after the baby is born..you must talk to him about it, but DONT fight..try to talk calmly (gonna be veryy difficult)...give him a chance if he regretts it or move on..its better to be alone than to be with an AH..

Answer 15

Whatever it is, he is doing something he shouldn't be doing.  You can ask him flat out, what's going on?  Give him a chance to be honest, but one thing you know, he's keeping secrets.  What is he doing that you didn't find out?  Maybe you should send his naked pics to everyone on his phone and see how he likes it!!!  Ask him what he wants out of your relationship and where do you go from here.  I would personally have hit the roof and chewed him a new _ _ _ hole, but that's just me.  Maybe you can be more mature than me and talk it out.  Then again, maybe she's a proctologist and he was just getting a check up.

Answer 16

I would go and ask him about the pic. I would also call the girl and ask her what the h**l is going on with her and your husband. Then I would kick his a!!.....

Answer 17

get the girls number... call her... and talk to her !! and tell yo husbands real amn dont cheat on their wives !

Answer 18

Well when he pulled into the driveway, he would be greeted with a huge blown up version of the picture taped to the garage door and every single article of his belongings on the front lawn with a big "FREE! TAKE ME!" sign next to them. The house would be locked up and I would be in a hotel ordering room service with his credit card.

Answer 19

I was married 17 years and found (my daughter found) a naked pic that my (EX-husbands) (Bi*ch) sent him, and brought it to his attention, and told him he could leave any time.  He left that night.  I divorced him soon after, and got $1437 a month child support.  Guess what?SHE divorced him, 6 months ago, for another guy!

Answer 20

This is the time when you are the most emotionally dependent on him and his act is unforgiveable and cannot be justified, IMHO. It's not like he just called her and it's likely it's gone beyond just a text message or two. Even if they haven't done the deed he has still crossed the line and then some.

Ask yourself this: does it really matter what his answer is? Will you believe what ever answer he tries to give you? What are you going to say if he tells you it's all your fault because of <insert excuse here>. You definitely should talk to him because no matter what you are connected to him for the rest of your life, but you deserve better than that. Don't let him shift the blame or the conversation to something about you - this was his act and you didn't take the picture and send it to someone else. The short of it is, do you think you can ever trust him again? Can you live every day wondering where he is and who he is with? Will you find yourself forced to check his texts and emails and such for the duration of your relationship? Or can you let it go, forgive and forget, and trust that he will never do it again. Remember, you're pregnant and your thoughts and emotions are not going to always be rational. Be prepared!

What do you think you or he will do in two months when he is no longer the center of your attention and the demands of a baby add to the apparent stress of your relationship already? Will he stay? How devoted is he to making this work? Once that baby is born your level of dependency is going to go up and any big life changes will be much more difficult.

Honestly, I'd ensure that my life was stable before having the baby. You are going to be bringing a baby into this world and setting an example for him or her as to what is normal and what they should expect from a relationship. Make sure that example is one that you don't regret in the future.

Congratulations on your expected blessing. Good luck to you as you sort through this.