What would you do if you found out your spouse were viewing g*y p**n when alone?

Question

BABE: "Were" is the proper English as the word "if" connotes a conditional statement. In that case, the verb changes. An example, the song "If I WERE a Rich Man," from "The King and I."

Answer 1

That's "was" (not were) and I'd talk to him about it. A lot of guys are curious about male/male situations but won't talk about it. I'd find out how deep his interest was before we determined if it was an issue in our relationship or not.

Answer 2

you got caught huh..    lol  

Answer 3

she is just probably curiouse of the way they have s*x and seeing it makes it easier.

I was always curious about it and I watched it and its no big deal.

She is being normal.  

Answer 4

My husband did watch L*****n p**n. It upset me more than g*y p**n as it's just the women then that he is into.  

Answer 5

I'd finally stop denying that all of his g*y-bashing was actually homophobia in disguise.  

Answer 6

I'd ask him  straight out if he's g*y.  No need to beat around the bush. Hetero men just don't watch g*y p**n.  Your spouse is either familiar with it or curious about it.  I would think his days of being curious about that particular issue are long gone.  And if he's familiar with it, you might as well kick him to the curb and get on with your life.  But, before you do that, evaluate your relationship.  Are there other signs that might indicate his true preference?  Look for them and make a decision.  As the old saying goes, "you don't see smoke without a fire."

Then get on with your life.

Answer 7

If my spouse was a woman watching other women then I would highly encourage it.

If it's a dude watching other dudes, thats just plain gross.

I know it's a complete double standard. Just the way it is!

Answer 8

You should confront her.  Perhaps she's attracted to women or maybe she wants to have a three-way with you and another woman.

If it was a man looking at homosexual p**n, well, that would be a whole nuther story.  

Answer 9

  Well I'm not homophobic but to be honest I would probaably say something along the lines of "WTF." and have it go from there.

Answer 10

well, if I found my wife watching l***o p**n, I'd probably first take advantage of the situation and stroke one off, then ask if that's what she really wants?  

Answer 11

being that would be wild,, i would laugh,,

Answer 12

I agree with Ray70 and Vanity Fair.. I also think everyone is curious about how and what it is like with the same s*x even if it is not thier preference.

I know I am a naturally curious person.. if it became a recurring theme.. then I would ask questions, if it was a one time only discovery then I would assume it is morbid curiosity and keep my eyes wide open to make sure that I was not mistaken.

I also believe that fantasy and reality are two different things and if we all really played out our wierdest fantasies, well it wouldn't be all that fun.. of course I think people would c**p if they could really tell what others are thinking.. unless I am a real weirdo..which could be the case...all people...think about off the wall stuff sometimes.

Answer 13

Uhhhh .... not sure because I would be in total shock.  If you knew my husband, you would understand!

Answer 14

ask questions. Lots and Lots of questions.

Answer 15

I'll be asking some questions. What to find out why how come. Are you on the other side of the fence.

Answer 16

I agree w/ Rae 70. There would be many questions and concerns. That's just not normal for heteros in a marriage to be looking at that kind of thing.

Answer 17

confront him about it

Answer 18

Probably ask for a divorce and then ask if he wanted to go shopping with me.

Answer 19

tell her wow and stop seeing her intell she said srry

Answer 20

I'd sit down and speak with him before I jump to conclusions. I don't believe in the double standard of it's alright for a woman to be curious, but not a man. Everyone gets curious, but I'd have to see how far this curiosity lies and if it's more of a curiosity or if this is a deep down desire because those are two totally different things.