What would you do if you were deeply in love ?

Question

Ok in my late thirty's and i met the most wonderful beautiful woman and i have fallen very deep for her, but there is a issue, we both love each other and care so much. the problem is she is stuck in a abuse relationship she is not together no more with this person, had a very rough time , and he know we been talking listen we plan to be with each other , you know when you just know this is the right person for you , well i know she is and she feels the same ,, this guy is stalking her and is not giving up he even using his daughter to come and interfere with us now sad to say but true. now she wants to get things straighten out there and said to me last night that i might take time , i told her i will always wait for her because she means everything to me and i will wait , her ex has threaten and stuff saying he will take her daughter away from her witch i know he cant , but now he is saying to her that she wont have a place to live in a couple of days , i feel so helpless that i cant do nothing and wait here for her is all i can do anyone have good advice and not silly comments i would gladly read them what you think i should do ,, this woman means the world to me and more ,, i feel like i could even marry her one day and i been down that road before , this is what she bring back into my life i sent letter to her explaining this to her and i mean every word i say to her ! thanks for comments ..

Answer 1

Abusive relationship is about power and control.

She will be much stronger in the end if it is her , who deals with the situation.

What you should do is be supportive of her but stay outside of it unless she asks you do help with something.  Help her regain control of the situation but let her be in charge.

You are right to tell her that you will be there even if it takes time.

Be strong and don't get involve in the drama.  Listen to her when she wants to talk.  Believe in her strength and abilities and not feel helpless!  You will be helping by your trust & believe in her.  Tell her you are there and will be there for her and you believe she can do this and that you would do anything to help when she decide you should etc.  

Be calm and loving and keep your inner strength.

She can always move in with you?  As you said, you know her daughter can't be taken away.  Once you are through with this, your relationship would be very strong.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I feel bad for you because you really have no way of knowing if the guy is saying what she says he is saying most married people who cheat make up or add to the story so they don't look messed up for cheating if he is as bad as she says why didn't she leave before she met you do you people who fool with these married people even think about that. Why do they stay and keep a person on the side why not just leave and then work on a relationship.