What would you do if your 3 year old son came home from daycare and out the blue told you the teacher hit him?

Question

As he sat down to eat dinner he blurted out, "The teacher hit me". When I asked him where, he lifted his rt hand then made slapping motions on the back of it. Please trust me, I know my son. If he said you hit him, then you did. I asked him if the teacher scared him he said no and seemed undisturbed talking about it. 2 wks ago I went to pick him up from Childrens Court Yard and he was very upset and scared to move when I showed. The teacher said he wanted a toy but it was story time. At home he told me "Teacher did this" then made motions of her pounding his hand. I just thougt maybe my son made her play tug a war for the toy. I have a 1mo. old & an18mo. old @ home & need to keep my 3 yr old in daycare, but after I confront his teacher tomorrow I may have to take him out or fear of her taking this out on my son @school from now on. I'll be overwhelmed having all 3 boys at home together, but I do believe she's hitting, pushing, or shoving my son around @ school. She never gives me a bad report on his behavior. Recently, her assistant was transferred so she works alone. What do you think. What would you do?

Answer 1

Not only would I immediately remove him from this day care center, I would file a complaint with the city. Your child is being abused, physically. How do you know she isn't doing worse? We see this in the news all the time.  Find another day care center for him and be sure to check it out completely. Good luck.

Answer 2

if i were you i would remove him from that daycare and find a new one, maybe ask friends who have kids about daycares or family.

Answer 3

I'm in no way trying to be offensive, but if you are at home with your other two kids, why is your three year old in daycare? Is the reason worth risking someone putting their hands on him? I would pull him out and keep him at home. There are SO MANY things you could do to occupy him if there are things you need to do at home. If he must stay in daycare, I would definitely take this up with not only his teacher, but the owner/manager of the daycare. They should not be slapping your child's hand as there are many nonphysical punishments that they could be using. Check with your son daily to make sure that they are no longer doing this after you've reported it.

Answer 4

first reaction I was infuriated for you and I would like to hit her.

but you need to talk to the head lady, and see if they have cameras or something.

and even if they dont please dont leave your son in that place.children dont just make up stories like that for no reason.

Answer 5

Don't ignore it. If you do you are sending a message to your son that you wont protect him. If he is coming to you with this the only way he can get help is through you. I feel for you, that definitely does not sound like an easy way to go but I think it needs to be brought the the centers attention.

Answer 6

I would report her to her boss or even the local police if you have to that is c**p that she is putting her hands on your child taking your son out of the school is great but what if she is doing it to other kids? but they aren't saying anything?. I would take my daugher out of that school if she told me her teacher was hitting her.

Answer 7

ask other mothers you know who leave their kids with he! maybe its not just happening to him...but at the same time if you tell her stuff and leave your kid in there she might take her anger out on him! so think of your actions i suggest you talk to other parents, and if its more then one kid go to the school board or press charges on her! Either way do something bout it asap cuz you never know what she might do tomorrow!

Answer 8

change day care or report your worries to the manager. If you need childcare for your 3 year old, try a childminder. More one on one.

www.ofsted.gov.uk or your local council should be able to give you a list.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

I don't know.... star please

Answer 10

I'd confront the teacher and tell her you know what she is doing and take my kid out of her "care" ASAP.

Even if your son is a trouble maker (which it doesn't sound like) there's no need for her to do that.

Answer 11

Why dont you contact other parents maybe their kids may have said something to question her ability to teach and not be physical. Or maybe like the other answer pull him out of daycare and let her know you have heard from your son that she is putting her hands on him and get someone to help you out at home a few hours a day.  

Answer 12

find a new daycare.

Answer 13

Honestly, I would take him out right away. Even if she denies it. She could take it out on him. Find another class or day care center all together. Good luck.  

Answer 14

OK CONFRONT THE TEACHER IN A PROFESSIONAL MANNER. IF U COME OUT YELLING AND SCREAMING SHE GUNNA LIE.

SOO....

ASK HER CALMLY WHAT HAPPENED AND TELL HER YOUR BABY DONT LIE. IF NOTHING HAPPENS ASK OUT THE BLUE TO OTHER PARENTS  IF THE TEACHER HIT THEIR KIDS?

IF YES THEN REPORT HER. SHE HAS NO BUSINESS PUTTING HER HAND ON CHILDREN ESPECIALLY YOURS

Answer 15

I wouldn't let him stay there. Maybe instead of daycare, you can hire a teen to help you out a few hours everyday.  

Answer 16

GET YOUR SON OUTTA THERE. Even if it aint entirely true, 3 year olds dont make that kinda S**t up. If you have to, then find somewhere else for him to socialise- another 'day care' or whatever but yor lad must be unhappy

Sarah x

Answer 17

If you think she is hitting him. Take him out of that day care and ut him in another one and sue her

Good Luck

Answer 18

First of if i had a son and told me that the teacher hit him i would go in my car and face the teacher in a very professional but foward way that what is going on in this day care why is my son telling me that you hit him?? i would go crazy if i knew someone laid a finger on my son (if i had one) seriously that's not right i would approach her supervisor or owner of the daycare.Good Luck!!!

Answer 19

my kids teacher was very nice to them but one day i walked in on her as she was jerking a girl up by her arm  i didnt say anything because i was going on vacation with my kids. when we came back any i took them to daycare i learned that another parent had walked in and saw the same nice teacher slap another child (not there own) in the face. the parent whose child got slapped didnt beleave it. The teacher was arrested and charges were pressed because the woman who saw it called the police instead of telling the director. so in the end the charges were dropped and the teacher returned to teach the children, including the child that she slapped and the child that i saw her jerk out the floor the only kids that didnt return were my twins and the other parents kid who witnessed the slap. oh and our kids were three also, so as a parent if your child said it happened then it happened.  so i think you need to find someone else to watch your son before he gets hit again.