What would you do if your daughter's boyfriend's stepfather left her a message stating the following?

Question

I got mad at my boyfriend because he had wasted my time and cancelled plans on me without an explanation and because he wanted to change plans to another night, the other plans i had got jeopardized. Since this wasn't the first time he had done this I sent him a text saying I was mad at him. A few minutes later i received a voicemail from his step father saying the following although his father did not know the reason i was upset

Hi its randy hey um I gotta question I was hoping that you would pick the phone up because I’m understanding that you’re severely pissed of at Trevor and I don’t quite understand that mentality or that attitude. heres a guy that’s been pretty darn sick and had strep throat he accidentally fell asleep and overslept, I can attest to that not that he needs a defense witness for you, but I think that you should probably just talk to him and reschedule a strategy, now I appreciate you and I like you, you’re an extremely pretty and intelligent lady but u know what u can’t crowd this relationship either and be a doma-matrix, be a nice lady, alright thanks bye

Answer 1

I think the father should mind his own business.

Answer 2

play it to your boyfriend and ask him to tell him to mind his own business

Answer 3

Find a new boy friend! I don't really see anything good about wanting to oversee this relationship.

Answer 4

Well, if he was sick then you need to cut him a break.  Understand that being bf/gf doesn't mean that you have to be glued together at the hip.  Let him continue to do things without you and you do the same.  

However, if you suspect that he is being deceitful, then you need to decide if you want to continue the relationship.  Set rules.  Your rule can be that he can't break plans once he makes them.  My rule for men is that they can't lie to me and must kill all spiders I deem necessary to die.  But he also needs to set rules for you.  

As far as the stepfather's message, just drop it.  Sounds more like he's sticking up for your bf, but not being rude to you.  Read between the lines.  He says he likes you.  He just things you were over-reacting and you might have been.

Answer 5

Tell him to butt out...

Answer 6

As a parent he and I would have to have a discussion about the wording of his message.  It is one thing to point out that his son was sick but the way he went about it was tacky and not appropriate to be speaking to someone else's child.  I would insist that in the future he as a parent and adult refrain from getting involved in this relationship between two children (unless of course there was a need for adult intervention)

Answer 7

I don't particularly like when parents feel they need to get involved, but maybe you should call and explain your side.  Maybe you'll get an apology, if not, at least the situation will be cleared up.

Good luck!