What would you do if your daughter...?

Question

{who is 15]Was in love with[well she said she was] a guy who was 35 years old. And learned that they had s*x and she was pregnant? And you had talked to this guy and he cared for her and he wanted to help her with the baby...would you immediately turn him into the police? Or let him stay? I'm asking this for my best friend,she's wondering what her mother will do. She's freaked out, she wants him to stay and help. I'm wondering what to do,to help her out? She's not getting an abortion or giving the baby up for adoption. She wants to keep it. She doesn't want the guy to go to jail though, she really cares for him. Help?!?!?

Answer 1

I would turn him into the police. That's statutory rape and that is a serious crime. No girl at 15 can be taken serious when she says she is "IN LOVE" and not 35 year old person should be having s*x with a child. But it is what it is and now she will have to deal with the consequences and so will he.

Robertsgirl- you must be in the same sitution otherwise why would you think it's ok?!?! EVEN IF IT WAS CONSENTUAL s*x....THE LAW STATES IT IS STATUTORY RAPE!!!!!!

Answer 2

turn him in.  he molested your child.

Answer 3

well if he is willing to help then they should be fine with it.. even though he is a lot older it wasnt just his desicion bc he didnt rape her so it wasnt just his fault.

Answer 4

I'm sorry but that is just wrong...there is NO WAY that that 35 year old man could "love" her...he was in it for the s*x; she is still a child. Personally, I would turn him in immediately, explain to her that he is FAR too old to be anything less than a perverted man by even expressing interest in having s*x with her at 15.

Answer 5

I am shocked about that girl, but try to talk to her best friends & ask them to help that girl.And also try to talk that 35 year old men's parents

Answer 6

I would tell my daughter that it no longer matters what she wants and what she doesn't want.  Pressing charges is the parent's responsibility and they are letting a adult take advantage of their daughter.  A 35 year old should have nothing in common with a girl that age, in fact he could BE her father.  Turn him into the police, I don't care how many offers of child support and help he is offering.

Answer 7

HE IS A PEDOPHILE!  For crying out loud.....does your friend really think that this guy loves her? He says he cares for her because he does not want to go to jail! He was molesting her!! Again, this man is a pedophile!! What is she going to do when he is molesting her child?

Oh yeah, he would be gone to jail alright because that is exactly where he belongs. He is disgusting! This makes my stomach sick!  

Answer 8

"He is a pedophile"

NO! he is NOT!!!

A pedophile, by definition is a medical diagnosis, it is defined as a psychological disorder in which an adult experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children and has engaged or may engage in child sexual abuse.

Is a 15 year old a "prepubescent" child? I think not!

Could charges be filled against, this wold depend on the age of consent in your area, I know that the age of consent is 14 in at least two states. But in most it is 16 and 18 in some states, so in those states yes charges can be filled.

If you feel that your daughter was not "used" or "abused" in any way and feel that this guy is actually nice to your daughter and wants to be involved in her life and the life of the baby, then DO NOT file charges against him. Think about the baby, it will need its father and mother.

Talk to you daughter, ask her how he is treating her, is she ok with him, was there ANY abuse at all and go from there!!

Oh, I really like does parents who think that if the guy sleeps with their 15 or 16 year old, he is a pedophile but if he sleeps with their 17 or 18 year old then he is all good, I mean what the F***, where is common sense in this country? First learn what "pedophilia" actually means!!!

Answer 9

If you really love your friend you should tell her to tell her mother.  He is 35 she may think he is great but for a man at that age to have s*x with a 15 year old means he is a child molester and deserves to be in jail!  When she has this baby ask her how she would feel if at the age of 15 it started dating a 35 year old.  If he is doing this to her who is to say he wont do it to the baby

Answer 10

Her mother will probably do what most other people would do. Call the cops and have him arrested. Your friend is 15, he is 35. Like everyone else has said, if he TRULY cared about her he would have waited for 3 more years to have s*x with her. He deserves to be in jail in my opinion.  

Answer 11

I'm the mother of two daughters and I think I'd want to castrate the guy. Her parents reaction is totally based on how laid back & relaxed they are, but either way I can tell you they will really be upset.

Answer 12

Police, Im sorry but no 35 year old man wants anything to do with a child.  I can see a few years older like a 18 year old guy and a 15 year old girl, but this man is old enough to be her father.  I would turn him in simple as that, and press charges.  I dont care how much they "love" each other.  Thats just sick and wrong.

Answer 13

He's old enough to know better.  He should be charged, regardless of whether it was consensual.  If he truly loves her, he would've waited until she was of legal age to consent.  And if he truly loves her, he'll be there when she gets out of jail.

It's sick.  It's also illegal.  He may be a pedophile and cease to be interested in her as soon as she turns 18 and start hunting for another 15 year old.

Answer 14

Like you said: She thinks she loves him! She is so young! But he should know better! F*****g pervert! Hope he rots in jail!

Answer 15

She'd be locked in her room & I'd be on the phone to the police.

How the heck did you let it come to this??

Answer 16

Of course, no matter what, he'll get in trouble with the law. Depending on where you live, ages of consent (The age when you're allowed to have s*x) vary, and in many states the AoC is 14-15. He may spend time in jail, or he may just get fined. He will definitely get in some sort of trouble. But just tell them to let your parents know. What happens to the father is something he should have expected from the first time he even considered having s*x with a minor. Laws and are laws, and were not made to be broken.

Answer 17

He is a child molester have him thrown in jail.    

Answer 18

Something to ask yourself.

" what type of a 35 year old wants to have s*x with someone who could be his daughter, at the age of 15"

If she was even 19 i could believe it... but this sounds like shes getting attention she wants in all the wrong areas.. you might need to bring this up to her parents... because of she has a baby no doubt they'll be footing the bills..

Lots of women have cared about men when they were nothing but bad news for themselves sometimes its not about what she wants, its about what would be best for her...

That man needs some police escorting.

Answer 19

20 years of age? Well, he is old enough to be her dad if he's lucky enough!

That's almost as good as a child molester! Report him straight to the police! You should talk to your friend's mom about it, if you really care...

He's bulls_____~ He doesnt love her. If he loves her, he won't have s*x with someone who's underage! He just wants to get away from it! That's all!

Anyway, I hope this is just a joke. :)

Answer 20

Well, In one hand i would. If he is sleeping with a fifteen year old who knows what he will do to the baby. Your friend may think she is all grown up but she really isn'tt. When your friend has her baby and if he leaves her she would wish she turned him in. I don't think you or anyone should support an abortion, but i do think you should turn him in. Imagine how you would feel if someone that is closer to your age then your child's age touched your "baby". bottom line turn him in, maybe he has a record. Dont believe everything someone says to you. And maybe hes just saying he will be there just so she wont turn him in.

Answer 21

Yikes! 15 and 35? My DH is 34 and I'm 20 but the only thing she can do is not tell who the father is or prepare a really good statement for court as to why he's not a pedophile. It can be reported by anyone but the most likely source is her parents who will press charges. If she manages to allude the aforementioned for 2 or 3 more years she's good to go.

EDIT: I totally agree with the guy below me. What the h**l is the difference between 17 and 18 or even 16 and 18? I was an idiot the entire time. I honestly could never see the vast knowledge that just seems to appear on one's 18th birthday. That, aside, I don't think he's a pedophile either. If he's a good man, who hasn't hurt her, I really think that the best thing to do is nothing. I would be sooo angry but I'd do what my parents did with me and try and understand. If I got ANY inkling that he was hurting my daughter, I'd make sure it was taken care of quickly. I don't know her mother, so I can't say. A lot of my friends with children may feel differently than I do-I only have a step-son. Good luck.

Answer 22

Take him to Jail. He is a big pervert of course he says he cares about her to get what he wanted he is old enough to know better and know the laws!! She is just barely able to start making decisions for herself and she didn't make a good one here! Poor girl who let this happen? Where would she be to be able to get in a situation with a man that age??

Answer 23

you will be really lucky if the police don't find out who you are and show up at your door

Answer 24

That's wonderful that they care about each other, but he is 20 years her senior and KNOWS that the relationship is inappropriate.  If they really did love each other, he should have been responsible enough to wait to have a relationship with her until after she was 18.  He took advantage of her and that's not OK.  He needs to be held accountable and needs to go to jail.  Its as simple as that.