What would you do if your daughter was dating someone wearing sagging pants?

Question

And not like baggy pants, or cargo pants, but one of those ridiculously low sagging pants, when good 6" of underpants are showing :)

Answer 1

well if it ain't serious i would wait till they break up. you arent going to be able to change him and if you tell your daughter  that she cant see him based on that she will do it for spite. if they are serious just explain to him that you don't want to see his a$$ in your house make it a rule he has to pull up his pants while around you. but out in public  you can't do any thing to someone not your child

Answer 2

I would have a talk with him and tell him that if he expects to date my daughter, he would have to keep his pants at his waist. In my family it would be more of an issue of respect to what is considered proper than looking stupid. One is supposed to have a great deal of respect for the parent's on their significant other, if you asked him to honor this request and he did not then he must not care about your family or daughter a great deal.

Answer 3

Well it depends on the guy wearing them, I mean seriously you can't judge a book by it's cover.

that's the fashion these days,it's the "In Look" it seems, and heck as long as they have underpants on and they are clean isn't that more important.it's no different then girls wearin lil topsand short shorts and short skirts etc.  I think the guy's attitude and mannerism is way more important.

My brother is one of these guys that dresses like that (he's 23 and only just recently stopped after many years dressing like that), he looks like a rough kinda guy from the way he dressed, but he has a pure heart and is very respectful. His clothes don't represent him at all. But he likes that image so yeah, I would be more concerned about what the guy is like for who HE IS not what he wears.

Answer 4

Ok, would it drive me absolutely insane?  Yes.  Would my husband want to kick him out of our house?  Yes.  

However, I like to keep an open mind and get to know people before I make any judgements.  Just because somebody forgets or doesn't care about first impressions doesn't mean they are a bad person.  

So if my daughter ever brought a guy home dressed like this or in any other way not considered "normal", I would give him the benefit of the doubt and try to get to know him.  If he is a good person and treats my daughter right, then I can look past his clothes.

Answer 5

I'd have her Daddy or older brother or Uncle sit down with him and explain how to act. Most of the time, those are the wannabe "ghetto" kids or "gangstas". Tell her to find a real man. Not some tard. Just cause his pants are low, doesn't mean his d**k is that big.

Answer 6

LOL, I might interpret it as he was very eager for s*x.  After all, he already had his pants down.  =)  I'd probably say, "Excuse me son, but your pants are falling down.  Here, you can wear one of my husband's belts."  After I sufficiently embarrassed both of them, maybe he would think twice about dressing like that around my daughter and me.

I'm all for self expression.  Blue hair?  Nothing wrong with that in my book.  But practically exposing oneself is disrespectful.

Answer 7

Make fun of him mercilessly (until asked seriously to stop. I know some people are sensitive about that kind of thing) but understand that the way a person dresses does not necessarily mean anything about who they are as a person.

I would also realize that it is ultimately my daughter's decision who she dates, and that it would be better for all parties involved if I tried to look beyond his clothing choices. Again, after making fun of him and making it clear that he looks a bit ridiculous.

There is more to a person than clothing, and it would be rather foolish of me to make judgments against someone for following a trend.  

Answer 8

I'd make fun of him to his face.  Or say stuff like, "oops, your

pants are falling down, I have a belt, do you need it?"  

Answer 9

I'd kick BOTH of their a$$es

Answer 10

If he were in my house I would make it very clear that out of respect for my household, he is NOT allowed to wear them like that. But when he's not at my house, he can do whatever he pleases. But I would be sure to let me daughter know how unattractive I think it is.  

Answer 11

When my daughter was in high school she briefly dated a guy who wore pants like this. The first night he came over, my husband shook his hand, looked at his pants, took off his belt and handed it to him saying, "Looks like you forgot something." Dumbfounded, the kid took the belt from my husband and put it on. LOL! He never came to our house again with his pants hanging down below his underwear.

Answer 12

Really not enough info to answer - how old is the daughter and boyfriend?

I think I would base my opinion on the person instead of the fad of sagging pants.  If he were respectful, treated her well, was a good student, good person etc.  I could accept him despite his choice of fashion.  After all, I remember my brothers having the long unkempt hair of the 60s and they looked ridiculous but at the time, they thought they were cool.  Fads come and go but quality people are rare.

That said, if he is a regular boyfriend, you could try talking to him and ask him why he likes his pants like that?  Genuinely ask him and listen to his answer.  Also, if it really offends you and you can't stand his presence any other way, you could ask him to not wear them to your home.  

Answer 13

hey I'm ok with that i have a problem with her dating someone who wears really tight paints!

Answer 14

I would speak to him directly and say, "You need to find pants that fit you. I know that you're a nice guy but your clothing choices make people think you're a thug." If that doesn't work, send him home to change clothes. Your daughter will be furious, but someday she will thank you.

Answer 15

I agree with the others.  I'd have a fit.  The moron needs to dress like a human being.  I heard that in some city (can't remember where) you can be ticketed for it and after like 3 tickets you can spend jail time.  I think the whole country should adopt that law!

Answer 16

I would ask her if she knows what that trend originated from? I would then ask her if she plans to be a good friend after he comes out of the closet. (in a joking way)

In case you do not know, sagging pants originated in prisons. Men would sag their pants to basically say that they were open for business (s*x). A rapper took it mainstream for some reason and then guys started doing it too and then it spread everywhere. If they became serious, I would probably tell him where it came from. I would say that his fashion choice reflects poorly on him and when they are in public it reflects poorly on my daughter as well.

Answer 17

Hmmm maybe tell him to pick up his pants, and stop showing his asss.  that Thiis moronic dress code reflects badly him and on my daughter?

Answer 18

I would NOT be pleased. that looks so dumb! I'd just make fun of him nonstp and tease her about it.

Answer 19

Make him pull up his pants or talk to your daughter about it. She will get mad probably but do it any way