What would you do if your drunk sister-in-law gave you a chest rub?

Question

She asked me if I like coming over when she drinks and I said,"yes," meanwhile, she kept getting drunker and drunker and I wanted to say,"now I mind" and the whole chest rub creeped me out. I didn't say anything to protect her feelings and I told my husband and he didn't know what to tell me. What do you think?

Answer 1

experiment a little ;-)

Answer 2

I would not have let her.  I would have told her to go to bed and sleep because she is being inappropriate and making you uncomfortable.  I would tell her that you now prefer her not to drink when she comes over.

Answer 3

she's drunk...  

Answer 4

Talk to your brother. IT would scare me too!

Answer 5

I think i would run and hide

Answer 6

i would slap her face and tell her she is way out of order

Answer 7

I think I'm going to move to a deserted island and live on fish and bananas the rest of my life.  Society is really becoming too much for me to handle.

Edit:  Okay, I'm back and I will try to get through this....

I wasn't there to witness the "chest rub," but since you are asking about it, I must assume that you took it as a blatant sexual advance and not just some friendly, familial quirk.  In that case, if it had been your drunk BROTHER-in-law, I also assume that your knee would have impacted his testicles with enough force to immediately sober him up.  Whether it's your husband's sister, your brother's wife, or a complete stranger, it's still highly inappropriate behavior.  (That's MY opinion--if you hang around Y!A long enough, you will quickly learn that a lot of people consider it socially acceptable for two women to "make out" regardless of sexual orientation; they call it "being sensual.")  You don't mention her age or orientation, but if she's old enough to drink, she's old enough to be responsible for her actions while drunk.  My impression is that her life contains too much alcohol and too little affection, and that's a very dangerous combination for someone to have.  I see two possibilities; first, it could have just been a spur of the moment thing, where she got a lot too tipsy, was feeling especially "amorous," got an urge to experiment and decided to "feel you out" (sorry) to see if you were a willing participant.  In that case, it may have been a one-time thing that will hopefully never be repeated.  On the other hand, she could have those "preferences" and already been attracted to you for a long time, in which case she was probably drinking too much to intentionally lower her inhibitions and give her the courage to act on her feelings.  That's a more serious matter, as she is much more likely to make further attempts in the future.  You really need to talk to her, find out what her intentions were (if she even remembers doing it) and let her know that she crossed the line between family affection and intimate affection, and your interest in the latter is solely with your husband.

Answer 8

I think you should of pulled her up there and then but the moments passed. Get her on her own and ask her if she remembers doing it. If she says no tell her that she did and you don't want a repeat performance.

Answer 9

If my sister in law touched my chest or any other body parts I'd blow chow all over her! You need to talk with your sister in law and tell her to keep her hands to herself. :)

Answer 10

I wouldn't let her.  

Answer 11

She's either a seriously bad drunk and had no idea what she was doing, or she's interested in you, in the sexual sense, and can only act on it when she's drunk.

Either way, it's not good, and she needs to get some help.  She needs to stop drinking, and she needs to figure out who she is what she wants in life.  

Answer 12

I think the best thing to dois avoid being anywhere near wher while drunk.Trust me.

Answer 13

i would have taken her hands and moved them away from me. next time she does something like this, just tell her to stop. you don't have to be mean or yell or anything, just tell her to please stop, that it makes you uncomfortable, and then smile and change the subject. if she continues to be obnocious, i would not go around her anymore.  

Answer 14

That sounds like a very traumatic experience -- I'm not kidding.

Answer 15

i think there is a line between enjoying someone's company and violating someone's private space.  she obviously crossed that line.  did you actually allow her to give you the chest rub?  because if you did - why did you allow her to go there?  if you were able to stop it before it got down to that, well then, good for you, you stood up for yourself and laid down the law.  You go, girl!  i would never let that happen, nobody can ever touch me without my consent, and if they try, it's war...

Answer 16

Next time you go tell her your legs need rubbing, Its obvious she enjoys rubbing amongst other things,