What would you do if your ex put ur only child up 4 adoption w/out ur concent?

Question

My ex put my daughter up for adoption a year ago. I have been trying to find her since. She is everything to me. What would you do in this situation?

Answer 1

If she is in a certain state it doesnt matter if you want to keep her. It is the mothers choice and the dad has not say unless you get this paper that you can sign that allows her to not be able to put the baby up for adoption. She has already done that though so there is nothing you can do. She is with a family that loves her now and has been with them for a year. DONT talk her from them. Really you cant anyways. An adoption is final after six month and pretty much the day you place her cuz the mom has to sign a paper stating that she will not have any custody once she signs. Just let her be. Dont intrude on her life now. It has been to long. If she is your world then why didnt you do something sooner. Like actually gotten a lawyer before she placed so then you could have had a chance to keep her????? Sounds to me that you are just BARELY coming to terms that you wish you would have done something before. My choice for you and this is my opinion cuz i have been there, just let her be and let her be with her family. If you still want to try and find her then do but dont try to take her from them cuz most likely you will loose. Just see if they will work something out with you so you can see her once in a while.

Answer 2

For one you would have had to give up your parental rights for that to be legal. If you gave up your parental rights to your daughter you really had no say so in your daughters adoption. However if you didn't give up your parental rights she cannot put her up for adoption without your consent unless you didn't sign paternity papers when she had her. Good Luck I hope you find her.

Answer 3

Find and get yourself registered on the putative father registry, if one exists for your State

Get some legal advice - fast!

Answer 4

I'd fight it. He cannot legally do that without your consent.

Answer 5

I see a lawsuit!!! Thats so illegal!

Answer 6

did you sign away your legal rights? or were they taken away? When a friend of mine adopted, by law she had to put an article in the paper for a month in the city, town or state where the father resided. This gave him the opportunity to give up his rights or not.

If he declined to contact the courts in that set time, then his rights were then automatically taken away. I'm not sure exactly how long he had to contact the courts but, I'm sure it was more than a few months. If you were unreachable, this may have been the case with you. In any case, I would get a lawyer. I'm sorry to say this, But be prepared for a very long and very expensive battle.

Good luck

Answer 7

that is very hard to do. Was your name on birth certificate? Adoption agencies and lawyers put ad in paper looking for the fathers.  How old is your daughter?

Answer 8

I would go to a lawyer and find out where this child is.

I would take the mother to court and try and obtain custody.

She had no right to do this, without your written consent.

What she did is against the law - unless she couldn't find you.

If you cannot afford a lawyer, get assistance from an adoption agency, or find out how to obtain a lawyer free.

There are many things involved here,  Although you were married was the child your blood child?   Did she try and find you and couldn't.  (In which case notices should have been put in the papers etc.)    Where you a good father during the time you were married, or were you abusive and she wanted the child away from you for that reason.   There will be many questions for you to answer.

If you were a good father, it was your own blood child, and you were not asked for your permission to have the child adopted, everything is on your side.  

I would work on this fast, because the longer the child is in the care of a loving home, the worse it will be for her to be taken out of that home.

Good luck.

Answer 9

kill him

Answer 10

depends, did you sign away your rigts to the child? cause if you did i regret to inform you that there is nothing that you can do.....

If in fact you did not, (which is prolly the case since she's your everything)  you should contact a lawyer and also the adoption agency in which she went through.

Sry to hear about your troubles.

Answer 11

get a lawyer cuz thats illegal as h**l! unless all of your parental rights were taken away prior to her giving your child up for adoption, they should have went to you first.

Answer 12

Get a lawyer or even legal aid, if you didn't give your consent then you might  have a chance to get her back.

Answer 13

Get a lawyer

Answer 14

Get a lawyer and take them to court!

Why don't you hire a private investigator to find her?

How did they manage to put her up for adoption without your consent :S Athough I suppose in today's society, it's no surprise to a doctor/adoption lawyer if one of the parents has legged it already so they have no way of telling.