What would you do if your parents say they won't travel to attend your wedding...?

Question

and instead they will give you the money they would spend on that travel? (which would be around US$5, 000, they would spend that in flights, acommodation for a week in a nice beach resort, meals, etc)

would you appreciate it? would you be pissed off and tell them to keep their money? or would you insist telling them how important it is for you to have them present in your wedding?

-- it is a real life case, so please answer seriously.

(it's my mate's wedding... who feels really hurt by their parents decision... he is not sure whether their parents have good intentions, as they had never really show too much interest in his life's important events they didnt even went to his university graduation coz their were attending a niece wedding, and didnt attend his masters graduation coz it was his dad's university annual reunion ) both of his graduation implied a trip abroad, also the niece's wedding and the annual reunion .

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Answer 1

They should go to his wedding.  No if, ands or buts about it.  He should tell them the money won't mean anything to him unless they are there at his one very special day of getting married.  If they don't go, he can tell them to use the money to wipe their butts and have a nice life.  Then he can remind them they'll never ever get to see their grandchildren or anything.  It's their choice.  

Answer 2

Do they have a problem with his choice of a spouse?  Usually part of the parents' presence at the wedding is showing that they approve of the marriage.  If it's not that, it might be that it sounds like your friend has chosen to make his life in a country far from where his parents live, and maybe that's why they're so emotionally distant from him.  

It could be something as simple as one of them being afraid of flying.

He should let them know how much it would mean to him for them to be present, and that it's important to his new wife and her family too...that it would be almost insulting to them if his parents don't make the trip.  If he explains all of that and they still won't come or explain why they don't want to, then he should take the money and put it toward the wedding, or use it as part of a down payment on a house, and just tell himself that with his marriage, he is starting a family that will care about him.

Answer 3

poor guy, I feel so sorry for him.

Sounds like his parents are not interested in anything he does. Even something as important as his wedding.

They have shown in the past that they feel he is no a priority.

If i was him i would stress to them that he really want them to come to the wedding. Its not about the money, its about parents celebrating this special day with their son. If they still feel they would rather give him the cash, then so be it.  Sad it may be but he must face it.Take the money and spend it on the honeymoon or something for the home. I hope it works out for him whatever the end result.

Answer 4

Take the money and run before they change their minds.  Tell them they can view the photos on the internet.

Best Wishes

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Answer 5

ok