What would you do if your pregnant girlfriend left you and disappeared?

Question

Let's say you and your girlfriend have been having a lot of problems, mostly because the guy cant seem to be there the way she wants him to be, although "he says" he will be a great father despite the problems between them. He goes out partying leaving her alone (sometimes not even coming home), she stays home alone and hurt. If shes had enough and says shes leaving him, Which he at first fights but then accepts, because he is not willing to change. She knows she will not be happy with him otherwise, and she doesnt want to settle. So you go your separate ways.. and you expect her to keep in contact with you about the pregnancy. But she disappears and never contacts you, (disappears as in she did it on purpose so that you would not know where she or the baby was). What would your reaction be???, this is for someone very close to me (i need opinions) or the best advise possible.

Answer 1

Separate ways means that.

He should of thought about his choices he was choosing to do when she was with him.

May be after the baby is born she will contact him, but the way you discribed it, if I was her that would be very doughtful.

If she contacts him he had better of changed his behavores if he wants to be in the babies life.

Answer 2

I THINK THE GUY WHO WOULD NOT CHANGE FOR HER IS A REAL LOOSER,CAUSE HE HELPED MAKE HER BABY,,,N NOW CAUSE HE REFUSES TO CHANGE,,SHE HAS TO GO THREW ALL THIS BY HERSELF,,,HOW WOULD U FEEL IF THE GIRL HAD DID THIS TO YOU????PEACE

Answer 3

I would like to know her age as this will help a bit more, but I am going to guess its young 20's.  I was there once upon a time nearly 13 years ago.  I had a baby and the daddy wanted to take care of us.  He even begged to give him a chance.  Okay so young and naive me did.  (flip the calendar pages) When my son was under one he became abusive, didnt work, cheated and got put in jail.  So I told him when my son was about 6 months that I intended to make a better life for us and I did.  He has not been a part of my sons life since he was a baby.  Nor has he supported him.  So I would just focus on making things work for baby and me and let him do what he is gonna do on the side.  If he is a good one then he will do what he needs to for her and not force her to do anything.

Answer 4

Thank my lucky stars.