What would you do if your spouse broke his wedding ring and gave it back to you bec of a fight?

Question

If you and your spouse had a fight and he/she broke his ring(flattened it by a hammer) and gave it back to you and tell you, one more mistake and I'm gonna divorce you. what would you do? how would you feel?

My husband get mad at me because I called my guy friend who is from san diego and move to az and now he is back again in san diego where i reside also. SO I just called him to welcome him back. He is just really a friend. After I talked to my friend, I called my husband to let him know. then he got mad, he didn't come home. I have to pick him up the next morning at his friends house. Then as soon as we came home, he remove his ring and broke it.

Now, he is back for being sweet again and I told him I'm so hurt of what he did by breaking his wedding ring and he said he have no regrets of doing it and i deserve it. Besides the ring doesn't have a meaning to him. But He always tell me to expose my ring and show I'm married because i work in a hospitality business, and i encounter alto of guys.

Does this really doesn't mean anything at all. or I'm just the one who makes it a big deal and being hurt. I know its my mistake that's the reason why he got mad. But i NEVER thought he would mind because he knows my guy friend and we are already married.

He is a muslim and im catholic. He grew up in the states but have a middle eastern culture. and I grew up in the Philippines. Theres so many differences bet me and him but Im trying so hard to compromise and understand him.

Answer 1

Hello. You're married. This means that you don't have or need any guy friends other than your husband.  Your behaviour was wrong. The need to even keep this guy friend tells me that you haven't grown up completely, and still need the attention of other guys like in high school.

The fact that you called this "guy friend" tells me that you are not really happy in your marriage either.  No one who really loves their spouse would even think of doing such a thing.  How much do you value your relationship with your husband?

Have hubby's  ring fixed by a good jeweler, pay for it yourself, and then give it back to him with a huge apology.

Never talk to your guy friend again.  He's trouble. He doesn't value your marriage either, which is why he talks to you. He's trying to stir things up for you, and he has. Bad things. So, he's not really your friend. Who needs friends like this?  

Different religions or cultures has nothing to do with it.  Good morals are universal.  It's time you decided whether or not you want to stay married.  

Be smart. Do what's best for both of you.  

Answer 2

First you have no business calling old loves. That is asking for trouble even if you parted as friends. The past should stay in the past. Now as for what he did that was a cruel thing to do, and he probably did it out of anger. Sounds like he has some control issues that need some work. Both of you need to have a serious conversation and come to terms with what you both believe and expect from this marriage. You might be treading on dangerous grounds.

Answer 3

You both have disrespected the marriage.  He being from a middle eastern culture feels you have disrespected the marriage by haveing a male friend, that appears to not be a "family friend".  He disrespected the marriage by distroying the marriage ring.  Your husband's heart/pride is hurt.  He will get over it, and you should learn from this.  I am an American, and I would not do that .  You have to respect your husband and the only man that you should be concerned about.  If it was a mutual friend, then you both could have placed the call to welcome the "friend" back to San Diego.  I am sorry, but I am on the side of your husband.  If I were you, I would be trying reassure my husband that I would not disrespect him in that way again, and that you did not realize that it would effect him in that way.

Hope this helps, and Good Luck  :  )

Answer 4

If my husband smashed his ring, I would leave him.  That is horrible.  My husband would NEVER react the way yours did---over a phone call to a friend!!!  Your husband seems insecure and crazy.  If he broke his ring, that would say A LOT!  I would leave just to spite him...if he wants to act that way and figuratively destroy the marriage--then I would leave.  You did nothing wrong.  He is insecure. You might consider marriage counseling.  Good Luck!

Answer 5

your mans got serious issues. your not in charge of his actions, what he does is not your fault. is he abusive he sounds it. does he have any girls that are friends. and why is he so untrusting if anything he's just driving you to the arms of your friend though you don't have a relationship like that. he needs to stop being so insecure. and if he would give up his marriage so easily he's not really in love "sorry."