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What would you do in this situation?? i need help....bad!?

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if your man of 10 years (not yet married), who you have a child with. decided to call up a girl who he has been talking to behind your back for 7 months now, who he met on an internet chat room, right infront of your 5 year old son and you because you were arguing ?? then says he wants to move in with her and then she says "i love you" and he says it back!! he had it on speaker phone.

what if you didn't see this coming?? what if you never knew?? what if you love this guy so much that it hurts like a knife through your heart?? what if you really thought that you would be together forever dosen't matter if your married or not??

she supposedly lives in ohio and afterward when he saw me cry hysterically, he said he really dosen't want to leave me. that he never meant what he said to her. when i asked him how many times he told her he loved her he said about 3 times.

what do i do?? i feel so abandoned and lost. i want to cry right now except i am at work and can't. he says he's really sorry that he hurt me and he will never talk to her again. i want to beleive him because i love him so much.

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  1. You really need to get away and clear your head. Take a long weekend, just you and your son. Go to a relatives house or rent a place at the shore, you really need to deal with this on your own, only you know what is right but it may be wayyyy in the back of your head so you need to get away from everyone and everything and figure it out. FYI my dad was a cheating b*****d his whole marriage to my mom and my brothers grew up following his footsteps--make the right decision for your sons sake too


  2. ooh man  .. i really don't know.. but if it were me .. I know my friends would be telling me to follow my HEAD and not my heart in this case.  Do u guys have other issues..??? for him to want to make you jealous? Or did he just say he he will never talk to her again  just cause he felt guilty about hurting you cause u cried  so much?   only time will tell.. and u know what.. time also heals broken hearts.. so if he does end up being a low life cheating Prick.. U WILL GET OVER HIM and U WILL LOVE SOMEONE ELSE AGAIN :)  

  3. My opinion is that this man had no respect for you or his child for that matter. Giving him a chance to fix what has been done sounds fair, but it can definitely give him a chance to do it over and over and over again. And  nothing would hurt more but giving a second chance for someone who you thought loved you back, just for that person to break your heart, again.

    Give it a matter of time to think through this. This isn't only just your life, but your child as well.

    Good luck.

  4. 2nd chance that would be nice  

  5. Get a way for a while to clear your head.  What he did was low and manipulative and very uncalled for.

    If you decide to stay together, I definitely recommend couples' counseling and individual counseling for him.  

  6. He doesn't love you! I went through this with my ex except I was 4 months pregnant and had a 2 year old. He has NO respect for you if he could do that to you. You will have to learn yourself because nothing anyone tells you on here will have an effect, trust me i know i didn't listen to anyone. Just remember in order to love someone else fully you have to love yourself first. You deserve SO MUCH MORE!

  7. Girl, something very similar to you happened to me.  The best advice i can give you is to hold your head up high.  You did nothing wrong.  It is normal for people to argue, but that gives nobody any right to be unfaithful and to hurt you.  If he really is sorry, he will show you.  Not just say it.  I would give him the benefit of the doubt, but that doesnt mean he can get away with doing this again.  Understand that men are very much like kids, and they do stupid things sometimes.  That does not mean that he'll be able to do it again.

    Be careful and if this isnt the guy for you, then it is what it is.  It may seem like your whole world is falling apart, but this is temporary.  Be strong girl and good luck.


  8. Well dis is bad well forgive him and just wait to see if he will hurt you again n if he does then leave him not matter how much it hurts at one time you will get over it.You are strong so just keep being oyurself and do not let no guy hurt you....:)  

  9. i would say he is a real idiot first of all. he is taking the best thing he has for granted. he is trying to make you jealous. but at the same time i believe that he is looking for something new i know you love him but do not count on forever with him. start to open your doors to something new. and make sure that you can depend on yourself in case something does happen. good luck

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