What would you do???? plz help?

Question

ok well my boyfriend and i have a townhouse that we are trying to figure out what to do with ... the townhouse was givin to us so we dont have to rent or ne thing like that. the only thing that we have to do is keep that lights on and put food in the house... the only problem is that its 2 hours from my family and im really close to my mom but his family is up there and i love them to death! and down at my moms house where we r living right now the jobs only pay like 7$ an hour but up where the townhouse is jobs pay between 10 to 13$ an hour .... i no we could make in on our own with no problems ... but when im up there i miss my mom and lil nephew but when im at my moms ..my brother and dad make life a living h**l (she works alot and she doesnt see it) like for an example my brother accused me of stealing a drink from him that make u pee clean fro a drug test and he broke down my bed room door and my dad let him ..when i didnt do it he found out later my mom took it and got rid of it

Answer 1

Leave your mom's love for your bro and dad won't let her kick them out you have a good oportunity and I was in a similar situation and I still visit my mom on weekend's and she lives 1 1/2 away....good luck

Answer 2

I your over the age of 18 and feel like your ready to move out then go for it! moving 2 hours away isn't that bad it's not that bad of a drive and you have no rent so you shouldn't be hurting for anything. You'll have more spending money plus you wont have to put up with you brothers bull ****! also you always have the option to get a phone and call your mother everyday!

Answer 3

if you're grown up enough to live with your boyfriend then you're grown up enough to leave mommy and daddy.  

your mother is a grown woman and she's made her choices.  She knows how your father is and she chooses to stay with him.  If her life really is h**l with him then I'm willing to bet she will most likely leave him once all of her children are out of the house and on their own.  So you staying for your mom really isn't doing her favors.

you have a phone, you can call her and stay in touch.  This is what you do when you leave home.  You go out into the world and you build your life.  you don't hang around the house doing nothing.  you don't stay in a place that is stagnating and that has no opportunities if you're looking to better your life.

One day you're going to be a mom and probably married and your husband and children will be your family and your priority--not your mother.  you will still have responsibilities toward your parents but they won't be your major priority--just as once you are out on your own--you will no longer be their priority.

If you aren't up to breaking away on your own yet, that's alright.  Just understand that means you aren't ready for grown up relationships and responsibilities yet.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I have been in a similar situation and I think you should just go for the town house you can always visit your mom and have your mom come visit you and you know what if she comes to your place there wont be a lot of drama with your dad and brother so i think you sjould just give it a shot.

Answer 5

Well let me guess you live in FL where the pay is next to nothing. And you are tossing around the idea of moving up North to the east coast. With the economics being the way that they are and are probably not going to get better for a while... I would move to the townhouse. As you stated that everything was paid for all you would have to do is have food and light. Which is next to nothing. Sounds to me like living at home with your parents can be loads of stress. Your brother sounds like he has some Anger issues.. Not good for you and the boyfriend to be around adds negative stress to the relationship.

I would suggest giving it a try. it is "free" why not. I know that you will miss your mom as you said that the two of you are close. She could come and visit you . No one gets a house for Free these days. I would be jumping on that so fast it wouldn't be funny.

Answer 6

I didn't read the whole thing but from what i read I wouldn't make any changes for a man.. you sound young and when yur young a lot of relationships don't really work out so i would just do whats best for me.. good luck.