What would you do? :)?

Question

If you built friendships with people and confided in them ( by revealing deeper issues, not just surface level things) and you knew in advance they would leave and you would essentially be alone again...(as in, you no longer have someone close to tell your deeper thoughts, feelings, etc)

Would you take the risk and be friends with them anyway? or avoid this all together and keep to yourself?

(Consider the pain of losing friends, and knowing they have left with the chance of probably never seeing or having meaningful conversations with them ever again)

Answer 1

Tomorrow is promised to no man.  None of us is sure that any realtionship we start will be there tomorrow.  You must not be afraid to connect with people, animals or places because you might lose them in the future.  If you do that, you don't even have the "now" connections that we all need to live...And besides...there are many ways to stay in touch with a person these days...phones, mail, or even good old- fashioned hand written letters...the ones with envelopes that you can keep tucked away in a drawer and re-read any time you feel the need to re-connect...Good Luck and get out there.

Answer 2

Take the risk be friends with them as much and as long as you can and for those times you can't do it you have us here at YA .You can email me anytime you feel depressed and don't want to go out.You know the drill click on the avatar and then you can email me from there.I hope to hear from you soon I don't know you and you don't know me but maybe we can help one another.If not good luck!

Answer 3

I assume this is all hypothetical :)

Cause what you're saying is classic … fortune-telling? In CBT terms, I believe that's what it's called. You can't "know in advance" they would leave you. That's predicting the future, and as far as I know no one has that power. Except for that Zoltan guy.

However, if this is a hypothetical question … no. I would build friendships knowing in advance that they would never leave me (if I had that power).

Wow, I went on a tangent. Worst answer ever.

:)

Answer 4

Everyone is human and flawed.  Everyone you or I ever have or will have a relationship with;  will disappoint you at one point or another.  But disappointment, just like any other "feeling" is temporary. Life can be full of hope, no matter what the circumstance, if you personally know Jesus as your Lord and Savior.  John 3:16. I am praying for your freedom from the weariness of the weight of the world you seem to carry. I would try to get to know myself along with keeping the same friends and searching out new ones. I have friends I like, but who are negative, so I stay away from when I am dealing with a real problem.   It is great to have friends you have a common interest with, like a fun hobby, that may or may not know your personal stories.  Have you read "Self Matter" by Dr. Phil McGraw?  It is good.  Also, some of the Beth Moore bible studies done at churches are wonderful, deep and very fulfilling.  Hope this helps:)