What would you do ?

Question

I really want to have a career after college, preferably in a big city, . But I really want a family, the house, etc. I dont really care about suburbs, or other soccer mom c**p. I feel this pressure that I must have a fast paced career, a family while im young. People say im too smart just to give up and work in a museum and raise kids. They want me to go to medical school, law school, etc. I am lost. I am trying to figure out what I am going to do before I get out of high school, so I make the right choices. There is so much pressure to be a professional, and at the same time be a mother. What would you do?

Answer 1

You have plenty of time to figure it out. Get the best education you can. Go to med school if you are accepted. Lots of Drs. have families, too. You don't even have a serious boyfriend now so why are you putting all of this pressure on yourself? Life has a way of sorting things out for us.  

Answer 2

you obviously shouldnt be asking that on this web-site. find professional help. career advisor,etc.

Answer 3

Do what you want to do.  You're in high school, you have time.  Go to school for what you are interested in, not what people say.  Also, have a family when you want to, raise kids while doing what you're interested in.  This is your life, not anyone elses, so don't let anyone else make these big decisions for you.  Good luck!

Answer 4

Go to school for something you really like.

Get married. Have kids, and when your kids start school.

Start work at your career.

Balance career with family. <}:-})

Answer 5

I hope you realize you CAN do both. I graduated high school 2 months before my 17th birthday. I was in the top 20 of my class of 300. i scored in the 98% on the ACT. I chose to get married and have my first child at 18. I went to school when my oldest was a baby. I had my second child 2 years later. I continued school and completed it. When my 3rd child was born i quit work to be a stay at home mom. I own my own home, cars, and everything else I wanted. I worked my butt off and I didnt settle for what others wanted from me. You need to decide whats best for you. The only pressure you need to feel is the pressure you put on yourself. Nobody can decide whats best for you.

Answer 6

You have SOOOOO much time to be a mother, go to college, do something you want to do, something you are going to enjoy doing...everything else will fall in place after that.  It is important in this day and age to be able to fend for yourself, I mean let's face it marriages don't always last anymore, jobs are hard to find, and without an education you can't get anywhere in life.  So, be smart and study, go to school, get a career you enjoy, have fun and when you find the right person you will know it, and a family can come after that if you so choose, BUT you can still have your career and raise a family too.  Don't rush it!!  You sound like an intelligent person, use that to your advantage and make YOURSELF happy!!

Answer 7

Dont listen to what everyone else wants.  What do you want?  Listen to your heart.  Good luck sweetie!

Answer 8

well first really think things through; and imagine yourself working in a museum raising kids, or imagine being a doctor/lawyer or whatever you want and having kids when you're about 26 or what ever age you would like to have kids just really think things through ok well take cares

Answer 9

I would say get a college degree first.  I married at 20, divorced at 24 and am now 29 trying to finish up my associate's degree.  It's so much harder financially now that I'm a single mom trying to go to school.  And sometimes the classes aren't compatible with my kids school schedule.  Its tough.  Get it over with while you're young.  I can't get the jobs I want because I don't have a degree and I want more for my family than living paycheck to paycheck.

Answer 10

Live Life

Answer 11

try an experiment in school.   get a loaner baby, go to school, and work part time and see how you juggle the challenges.    

Answer 12

Most people are getting married and starting families later in life. Find a job that makes you happy first. Get settled somewhere first before starting family in my opinion.

1. Job First

2. Starting Family

Answer 13

While it's nice to have a goal in life, really, life is all about evolving into the person you want to be in your deepest heart.  Pay attention to the things you love to do.  Don't do something just because it sounds impressive and 'professional'.  We all spend a lot of years working, and when it is something that you love to do, it doesn't feel at all like work.  Not that any job is stress-free, but it's not fun to be doing something you don't love.

Consider your hobbies, the places you like to go, the things you like to do in your free-time and the careers that sound fascinating to you.  They could be keys to finding a career path you love.  These days peoples careers change and evolve too, so don't feel making one choice limits you forever.  I've known physicians who quit because they couldn't stand the stress and really wanted to do something else.  I know a lawyer who was unhappy in his work for years and now takes people on bus tours of a big city.  He's funny and has never been happier.  Another person I know loves to travel and became a travel writer and lived in other countries for years.  Another wanted to do public health and loved travel, so became an epidemiologist and went to work in another country.  There's no end to what you can do.  First search your heart for things that really attract your interest.  Then give yourself enough time to explore options and maybe find a mentor to help guide you.

Answer 14

ikno rite, same with me. umm, im tryna go to college first, and then when im done with college, then have my family. because then everythings pretty much worked out. and i have enough money to take care of them.

Answer 15

As cheesy as it sounds, you got to do what your heart tells you;

I can definitely relate to what your saying (except the mom part, but I think that was a given :P); people always tell me "Kevin, you have all these skills to be a (scientist, writer, engineer, fill in the blank here; I'm a renaissance man ;P)" But you know what? When it comes down to it it's YOUR life; people can talk and its just their input, so do what you love and never look back.

May I suggest exploring your options first though? I think parenting and family life can be put on hold, because something that precious is worth waiting for, right?

Hope I helped :)

P.S: In case this helps, I'm striving to be an actor, even if my peers think it's a joke; you got to have people who'll support you to surround you, and if you ever take other people's criticisms to heart it'll only bring you down. No one wants that, right?