What would you do?!?

Question

Do you think you would be able to compromise on some morals/desires of a relationship- or would it bug you to much? Here are some examples;

The person you are dating likes threesomes, speaks highly of them. You on the other hand, are not into them.

The person you are dating doesn't want kids, you do.

The person you are dating, has a different religious view than you do.

etc, would you be able to compromise to make this work? Or would it not be worth it- to continue?

Whats everyone's feelings on this. :)

Thanks.

Answer 1

Read your examples.  The answer should be clear without asking.  It worries me that you can't move on without a second thought. There are many people out there, and someone for everyone.

Answer 2

you could make it work...you wouldnt be happy though...nut,if someones that different than you you shouldnt have started a relationship with him in the first place

Answer 3

Find someone else.

Answer 4

This Deff. would not work I saw that with the threesoms he likes threesoms and you dont if yall dont have threesoms he will most likely cheatt on you to have threesoms

Answer 5

Depends on your age - if your 15 and your partner doesnt want kids (to use that example) then it shouldnt mean much as at 15 you shouldnt be wanting kids at that time and those relationships rarely last the distance.

Different religious views - if you are both strongly religious then you need to find someone else

Threesomes - I would find someone else as that person is likely to cheat on you to get what they want

Answer 6

You may have different religious view thats not a problem at all if it doesn't conflict. I don't think he doesn't want child forever. He may want a child in a suitable time. Make sure you love each other and follow the 2nd answer ''I feel it's all about prioritizing and how imporatnt each is to your significant other.''

If you don't fell like that take another way.

Answer 7

if the person you are dating is into the complete opposite of the stuff you like then i dont think there is any reason to continue dating them

Answer 8

I feel it's all about prioritizing and how imporatnt each is to your significant other.

Answer 9

Those sound like they can be some very powerful turn offs to me.  

-  Specially depending on how much the other person liked threesomes it would make me too uncomfortable to be with them.

+  or - A different religion isn't really an issue unless one of the other has a fanatic family that put stress on religious beliefs.  Not worth it, let me tell you from experience! Actually being around someone with different beliefs can be rather enlightening, unless they are unruly and believe that the other -individual- must believe in what they blindly do, which is just a senseless argument in it's self.

+ If you're just dating you shouldn't even be thinking about kids yet.  It really puts a strain on the relationship, wait four years than worry.  Until then, if he's still against it in the mean time, keep your eyes open for more fitting suiters and just keep'em within arm's reach :)

I'd compromise about the children and religion, but I would most likely be too weary of the threesome bit and would keep my eyes open elsewhere and just treat this experience just as it's labeled, a person to date.  ...and I'd get them tested before 3rd base :)

Good luck with this one hun, sounds like you need it.  Don't worry too much, there's always someone better,  even when you think you've found THE PERFECT man.  That's been my experience with pretty much every other bf I've had.

Answer 10

Nope, nope, nope, and nope.

Wouldn't work out. I'd remain as acquaintances and share platonic experiences over the years (as I observe how our differences aren't an issue, not being intimate and all).

Answer 11

It depends on how much it affects you. If it is something you can easily deal with then you can deal with it. If it is something that is really against what you think then you would be changing yourself for that person which is never good. My husband’s parents are a good example. My father in-law is Mormon and my mother in-law is Christian. They have been married for a long time. They are happy as ever too. They each go to their own churches every Sunday. They keep religion out of their relationship. So if you can find a way to compromise but without changing yourself that is the key! So it is something that needs to be dealt with but also something that can easily be fixed to make the relationship work. Although, like I said, some things can work and others will make you change, which you don't want to do. The threesome thing can't be helped from what I know. Either you break your morals or you find someone new. As for the second one, that also, isn't something you can change. If you both are still young, you can usually get the guy/girl to change their minds later on in life. Don't bet on it though. Everyone is different. Sometimes people don't want kids until they find the right person, then they realize that having kids with you wouldn't be so bad. It depends on the person and the situation. For the religious one, I've already given an example to that. So you shouldn't change yourself, try to compromise instead. Don't change yourself! You should both meet in the middle. You shouldn't have to change for them and they shouldn't have to change for you. I hope this helps!