Question:

What would you do / say if you found out that ...?

by | earlier

I've been divorced for a couple of years now after an 11 year marriage, (together for 7 years before we married) but have just discoverd that weeks before I got married, she was in a relationship with someone else. Obviously it makes no difference now but would you say or do anything?

Tags:

Report

Answer The Question I've Same Question Too

Follow Question

25 ANSWERS

Sort By: Date | Rating

Nope -- it does not matter. But remember who kept secrets because those are no friends of yours.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Nothing,absolutely nothing.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Let it go - it no longer matters!
Report (0) (0) | earlier
No mate. move on find a new love.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Do what, it's over now....just learn from your mistakes and your experiences and move on.....course that's a proven case that it doesn't matter how long you date before marriage it's all about how much you KNOW your partner and how READY you are with your partner to get married.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Forget about it and forget about her your divorced now it doesn't matter. I know you'll probably think about it over and over again but really there's no point you can't change it and it's not you that did anything wrong, just get on with your life and leave the past in the past.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
leave it and move on thats all u can do
Report (0) (0) | earlier
forget about it, it makes no difference to your life or her life. Just let it go.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
nope
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Don't say anything its over and move on!
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Your divorced right, move your butt on...
Report (0) (0) | earlier
I would think I made a huge mistake in getting married. And regret the years it lasted.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
No it's kinda to late for that buddy.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
NO ! because she chose you , she married you , she spent 18 year's with you . And more specifically and to the point your DIVORCED so time you moved on hey.

Why did you take 7 year's to marry her ? what was the reason behind waiting ?

Good luck.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Forget about it!
Report (0) (0) | earlier
what good will it do?. it won't change things has they are -So let it go and move on with a new start.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
nope its gone let it go x
Report (0) (0) | earlier
i would be a little upset, but now you have no role in her life and their would be no point, unless you feel it will make you feel better
Report (0) (0) | earlier
No I wouldn't bother doing or saying anything, it's not worth it now. It must hurt though even so...

Just move on. At least you have your life back !

Good luck.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
As much as it might bring some satisfaction to bring it up, seems like you should just let it go.

If you consider what might happen if you bring it up, generally, it will lead to more argument and hard feelings.

Take the high road. Look at it as confirmation that you've done the right thing. So you can move on in good conscience.

I empathize with you here, for certain. However, she continues to prove to you that it's not worth your own energy to focus on it. Apparently, she is all about people focusing on her, and REALLY, it's time for people to focus on YOU.

And do feel bad about it. Live it up, enjoy yourself, and don't worry about what she "DID". It has no bearing on what you will do tomorrow.

Report (0) (0) | earlier
No, it really wouldnt make a difference, the past is long past. As much as youd like to call her on it, it wont do any good.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
what she did before you was just that...BEFORE YOU...let her past go..she is with you now PRESENT ...enjoy her and dont try to conjure up some drama ---good luck
Report (0) (0) | earlier
it's in the past now just let it go
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Totally water under the bridge. Not only are you divorced... so there must be other issues, but if she married you then it means that at the time she must have had a choice to make.... seems to me that she chose you. I hope that over those 18 years that there were some good times between you. It is better have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all... a cliche? Yes, but true nonetheless. Try to focus on you and build your life back to a place the you want it to be.
Report (0) (0) | earlier
Nearly 20 years ago? I'd just leave it. Besides I am sure she was a different & much younger person back then. Wouldn't worry too much. Besides you were together for 11 years after that.
Report (0) (0) | earlier