What would you do/think if you found out your child's preschool teacher was dating an alcoholic-pothead-felon?

Question

thank you all for your answers.. my boyfriend (the alcoholic-pothead-felon) dumped me about 2 weeks ago for this preschool teacher and at the time i asked the question i was trying to find a way to get back at them.. it's all in the past now and the teacher doesn't want to be with him anyways. this has been really interesting, definitely mixed answers.

Answer 1

I would be very careful about accusations.  Knowing me, I would have my child transferred to another classroom.  Why?  Because I would not feel comfortable with my new-found "knowledge".  

The 8th grade teacher told us at parents' night:  if you don't believe everything your child tells you about me, I won't believe everything your child tells me about you.  We all laughed at the time.  By the end of the year, he had inappropriately "touched" a child.  Come to find out, he'd been convicted elsewhere for the same thing and our county had not properly read his police report when it came back in, they just filed it.

Sometimes, a gut feeling can be all you need for a decision.  If the teacher has been fine and presents herself in an upstanding and loving way, then this needs to be taken into account when making a decision.

Answer 2

I would first look at who I thought that the teacher was and see if you trust that person with your kid. Ask her why she's doing this and if she knows the implications that come with it. I would tell her that she should watch herself because that is a big deal. I wouldn't automatically pull my kid from the daycare or kindergarten though. Keep a watchful eye and don't turn your back. You might want to notify her boss and/or the other parents of the daycare. I wouldn't do it excessively though as that might cause them to go out of business or the lady to be fired and that's not good. Just know what's going on and create some guidelines on where the guy can be in relation to the daycare center.

Answer 3

Unless the person was in the classroom, not much. I try not to judge people.

Answer 4

Don't over-react.  You "found out" she is dating a alcoholic-pothead-felon.  How did you find this out?  Through word of mouth?  Don't they teach the telephone game in pre-k?  Did you talk to the teacher about it?  Does she even know this person is a felon?  Does this person visit the pre-school?  That would be the only issue to concern me... is a felon coming into my child's pre-school?  Talk to the teacher to clear up any misunderstandings before going to her boss... it is rude and inappropriate to go above her head without getting the full story first.

Answer 5

I would be very concerned for my child's well being.  I think I would express my concerns with the preschool's director.  Call an set up a meeting with the director.  Let the director inform the teacher of  your concerns.  This can be done without bringing your name or your child's name in to it.  Ask for a follow up meeting after the director has spoken to the teacher.  If nothing at all is done, I would consider placing my child in another school.

Answer 6

is the teacher an alcoholic, pothead felon?  If not, I would just think that they had poor taste or had a thing for "lost causes."  If it is not affecting the classroom and they are not hanging out in the classroom, I would try hard not to let it bother me.

Answer 7

I would think that the teacher was a pot head too.  I don't think that you would be able to do anything about it though unless you could some how prove that it was effecting their teaching performance or abilities.

Answer 8

I'd be concerned about what goes on in the classroom.