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What would you do to handle a completely out of control 14 yr. old boy?

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Ok, here's the story. My fiance's mother is raising her daughter's 3 children because she passed when her last child was only 2 weeks old and the children's father has been in prison. The oldest child is 14, he's completely out of control! We are at the end of the rope, we have no idea as of what to do anymore, what our options are or anything. My fiance and his family are black, we reside in a white neighborhood mostly, it's hard enough on his family now as it is, but his nephew is making it worse. White people are already rude enough to black folks (NOT ALL, but some, most in my town.. ) and when they see cops constantly at his mothers house, it's giving her a bad image. It's gotten out of control. It's so bad that when the boy walks out of the house down the street and stops to talk to one of his "friends", cops swarm in. My fiances mother is embarrassed. She's a church going woman who feels like she's failed somewhere down the line. She's tried everything. He's only 14, but yet sells drugs, steals money, bikes, jewelry, prescription pills.. etc. My fiance and I are in our early 20's and we haven't done half the stuff he's done. The cops won't do anything about it, they won't send him to juvie! Kinda makes me wonder why not because if it was any one of us, we would have been locked up in a heartbeat. He just stole $1,000 and a watch from some man than punched his daughter in the mouth than ran... it SHOCKS me because I do not expect that from a 14 yr. old child. What are some idea's to help us? Some serious idea's? We need major help. Cops won't send him anywhere.. She can't send him to military boot camp because he has no "record" and/or isn't willing to go.. And we've tried talking some sence into him but we've made ourselves blue in the face.

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  1. You need to talk to your state's attorney (not an assistant). He cannot discuss confidential information with you, but he will listen to what you say and you are going to have to let him do what he thinks is best. You need to talk to the chief of police or your alderman and ask their advice.

    You could also talk to the pastor. Talk to the supervising judge of the juvenile court system in your county.

    Try to enlist the help of as many people as possible. The police are going to wait until they can try him as an adult, I imagine because arresting him will only cause problems for your fiance's mother.

    The thing most people don't realize is that when they marry someone you marry their whole family, also, so it pays to be careful about who you choose and think with what is behind ur eyes instead of what is between your thighs.


  2. I agree, he has had a difficult life but that does NOT excuse this behavior...LIFE...Everyones Life is about CHOICES...My son is 14 as well, my 2 daughters are 12 and 17...they haven't had it easy either..13 years ago (5 weeks before my 12 year old was born) My Husband and My Oldest son were both killed in a tragic drowning accident up in Yosemite Park. I have never re-married...but I have kept my children on the Straight and Narrow by keeping them involved in Sports and Family oriented Activities..INSISTING on GOOD GRADES...always being there for them and being involved in their lives and KNOWING when to say unequivocally  NO! Keeping a VERY CLOSE EYE ON THEIR ASSOCIATES and FRIENDS.It is going to be VERY difficult to try and turn this boy around at this Juncture but NOT impossible...SOMEONE HAS to Step-Up and take control of him and get him Involved in Worthwhile Activities and hanging around with WORTHWHILE Associates...Otherwise he is a LOST CAUSE!~

  3. What sort of police force do you have that won't prosecute grand theft?  Something doesn't smell right.  Did the guy not want to press charges?  Call child protective services and have them investigate.  They have the authority to put the kid where he belongs.  BTW, he is being abused without question because there have been non consequences for bad behavior.  Here's a number you may call:

    1-800-422-4453  Push #1 when the machine answers.  

  4. Counseling, his mom died and dads in prison.  He probably needs to talk to a counseler and have them sort out his mental woes.

  5. im 18 now and wen i was 14 i went through a rele bad time i uset to steal off my own mother i dun street robberys bulgerys u name it i got involved with drugs until i went prison for 6 months that opened up my eyes i wudnt listern to no one before i went in now i come out i relised theres two ways in life up or down and now i finished college and planning to go uni in spetember hopefully he'l relise soon jus giv him time hes guna need something big for him relise  

  6. P***k him up. grab a belt and go way past the limit. light his lil *** up. make his *** turn around like a 360. he needs to learn respect. and a little bit of fear mixed into that respect wouldnt hurt a bit.

  7. Teen Challenge

    http://teenchallengeusa.com/

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