What would you do with a partner as such....?

Question

He made a sudden plan to meet up tonight, and asked me out of the blue.

Since we rarely meet and we stay quite far apart, in addition of transportation problems, we meet rarely excepts on every weekends.

I couldn't meet up with him as i had some problems at home. My folks went through some major arguments and i didn't want to leave them alone and go do my thing. so i told my partner i cant meet him due to the reason above.

And this was what he did.

He didnt even ask the degree of the problem i faced nor understand what i have to go through.

All he said was i promised to meet him and i should (yes i promised but i expected these issues should get an immunity)

He threatened to commit suicide if i never meet up. He forced that he will drive and come over and if i dont step out from my house he will do something to revenge like taking his own life.

He was cold and harsh and using hurtful words such as i am useless etc..

He always threatens. and when i ask him why, his answer is simple, because i dont keep my words.

How am i to keep my words when unexpected events happen?

Is it my fault that i have to deal with parents who are in the verge of killing themselves?

Please help me as i need to hear others point of view on how to deal with his threats and major anger management issues.

PLease help....

Answer 1

ONE: he should not be using that against you for the simple reason it is TOTALLY unfair on you and thats not right.

TWO: if he keeps saying this report him, if he is going to make you feel guilty for trying to help your partents through a rough patch he dose not DESERVE you.

THREE: If he keeps telling you this, there is a chance he is just wanting attention, but then again i dont know him, but if he was going to do it we would have already babe

FOUR: your better then that, and you have to the respect for yourself and not let him treat you like that, because no-one deservs that.

FIVE: He needs SERIOUS HELP babe,

I hope that helps you,

just remember BLOOD is thicker then WATER and your family will always love you and he might not, hopefully he will grow out of it... but try and get him help, if not let his family know.

GOOD LUCK AGAIN!

Answer 2

Kara is mostly right.  I guess it's not my place to ask why you're with this controlling person but it's a serious question you should consider asking yourself as I am sure there is a lot more to the story than you typed.

Think about it though, he may really care about you to the point to where he does something extreme... and that is in no way your fault.. none of what you wrote is.  

The way I see it, is that you should find some way to escape this relationship because there is a chance it will only get worse.  Good luck!