What would you do?10 points

Question

Ok i've been through alot off c**p in my life...Been abused mentally and physically..My dads cheated on my mum and i found out before she did...I had to pick up the pieces coz im the oldest child...I wasnt able to do what i wanted to do with my life coz off it...I've watched my mum try killing herself when i was 8...So many times i've thought about it myself...Ever since i was a baby i've watched my parents always fighting...My dad said to me last year that im the worse daughter in the world...I've been like a second mum to my brother and sisters...Recently my dad did somethings again and hes cheating on my mum again and she knows but aint doing anything about it...I've had enough and cant take anymore...I've been hurt too much and i cant take anymore...2 months ago me and my dad had a fight and we stop talking...I've blocked him out my life...We no longer speak to each other...I havent spoke to him in 2 months...We live togther and we act like complete strangers...For some reason i know feel i can life my life but hes still trying to control my life through my mum...He says things to her about me which she later tells me...I cant move out coz off my sisters...They'd never forgive me otherwise...What would you do?

Answer 1

try talking to your mu about it and if that doesnt work you will have to move out you got to live your own life your sisters will understand in time good luck  

Answer 2

Talk to your Dad... keeping silent isn't helping anyone in your family. Sounds like your dad wants to talk to you but can't so he makes your mum miserable putting her in the middle.

Answer 3

just do what i did...put up with all that c**p until you can leave then completely cut out the members of your family that make you feel bad.

its what i did and was the best thing i ever did

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are, but if I was you I'd try and get out because it's obviously upsetting you so much. I know you say you can't because of your sisters, but if your dad is alright with them and they can see how it's hurting you, then they'll understand, especially if you keep them involved in your life.

It doesn't sound like you can easily talk to any of your parents, so try and find another family member who you can put all your worries on; who knows, they might be able to help you!

Or you can always try and put your dad right, you sound old enough to be able to lay everything down and tell him that everyone will control their own lives. He doesn't sound like he deserves your family.

I hope this helps, I've not had any experience like this so it's all I can suggest.

Good luck (: Keep happy!

Answer 5

that was too long.

Answer 6

i know how you feel i went through that a few years back my so called dad has now left and is living with his new gf who is half his age i havent seen him in 2 years hes dead to me me my mum and sis get on fine now try talking to your mum if she doesnt listen make her listen do a runner with your brother and sister worked for me it makes your parents notice but dont get hurt or put yourself in any danger only use it as a last resort

Answer 7

Ask to live with other family, You need to clear your head before you do something you regret.

Answer 8

sorry for your life you will get though it! i Will be at your side

Answer 9

Tell him adultry and child support will have his whole pay check!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Lay down the law to him. Explain very carefully that you will stand for none of his c**p and that you are going to stick around for your sisters. if he opens his mouth to you in a bad way, tell him to shut it, and call the police if he hits you.

Answer 11

wow your story reminds me of Eveline, the best thing is to work a job in order to earn money and get out of there or make your mom divorce your dad( who is the cause of all the troubles) and remarry with a nicer man,

work hard and start a new life with the money that's what I would do, if you kill yourself you will make your sister's lives even worst! so don't!