What would you in this situation?

Question

like lets randomly say you're 22 year old, and you found out you were adopted. and you're whole life you were lead to believe your parents are your real parents? but you learn its all a lie. and lets randomly throw in there that you might have an unplanned child on the way, just for kicks.

What would you do? How would you react? Whats the appropriate thing to do?

Answer 1

i would've been like "that explains why u guys are black hmmm so im not really an albino?!" and then uh i would not abort that child

STOP ABORTION!!! AH THAT FELT GOOD -_-

Answer 2

well, if my adoptive parents treated me well, it wouldn't change anything really because they loved me enough to give me a home and love and all the things that come with that love. I would still like to know the conditions of my birth and who my birth parents are. now, baby on the way, the only thing i would want to know is my family medical history, just in case there are some genetic issues. other than that enjoy your life and new baby on the way, your "other life" could have been much worse than the one you have now, things happen for a reason.

Answer 3

I would say 'hypothetically' that maybe your adopted parents didn't tell you your were adopted for a reason.Maybe there is something behind the reason not letting it slip until now. Maybe your biological parents did not want you(not tryin to be mean) or maybe they could not keep you for some apparent reason...

Lets just say your unplanned child might feel the same way you might feel right now,if you were to put it up for adoption,and the parents didn't say anything til they were 22... I whole heartedly say that adoption is a WAY better alternative then abortion if you can not keep the baby...but if you can then just put yourself in the baby's shoes if this were to happen to them...

Also I would ask questions about the adoption...maybe they can put a reason behind why you were adopted and whatnot. You have every right to want to know what happened and why is happened,if they have the answers then you have every right to getting them and I would start asking away and tryin to find out what happened.That is only if you want the peace of mind of it all...if you are fine with it then just let it alone and do what you think is best for baby....randomly speaking =)

Good Luck

Answer 4

I would lock myself in my room for a day.

Answer 5

Your parents are your parents, and even though they may have lied to you I am sure that they thought they were doing the right thing.  We all make mistakes at some point, and sometimes we lie to our children if we think it is going to protect them.  As for the unplanned child, I don't know your situation but I don't think I would have an abortion.  I got pregnant at 19 (unplanned) and I had my baby hes 7 now and I don't regret anything about it.  I am also now married to his father.  We didn't get married until 4 years after he was born.  Sometimes things just work out.

Answer 6

There is so much more to being a parent than being a birth parent. I am not trying to say that pregnancy isnt easy, but parenthood- the next 18 years plus- is so much harder. It is kissing scraped knees and soothing crushed hearts that makes your parents yours.

They may not have known how to tell you. THey were probably scared to tell you. We all make mistakes.

If you decide to be someones angel and give them the greatest gift (a precious baby) you can ask for an open adoption or you can ask that they tell the child early so they dont get a surprize like you.

Your parents may have thought they were helping you by telling you now. THey may have meant it as a comfort. Go talk to them, not us.