What would you say To a intruding MIL?

Question

So, My MIL Ignores every word that comes out of my mouth. She doesn't like that I don't have curtains so when I was gone for the weekend I came home to curtains and my furniture rearranged. She doesn't like that we have rabbits ( outside ) so she put them up for sale in the paper with out telling me. I took her key away and she had it copied. Now I told her I do not want to be bothered after I have my baby When I'm ready to be around people I will let them know. So What does she do the day after I tell her this.... Comes over with a car group of her friends to see the baby. I answered and said she is sleeping and so was I , I told you No visitors till I let you know I'm ready I would appreciate if you started respecting my boundaries. Then what happens.... The NEXT DAY she comes again with people. I didn't even answer so she just came in And I had to tell her to get out of my house! My husbands mad I'm mad, I'm getting sick of it I have no privacy in my life she never listens to me! Even my husband said Its like she tunes you out. he talked to her but she wouldnt listen to him either!

Answer 1

Some of them are insane...mine is..my 4 year old hurt herself today and my MIL picked her up and I wanted to see how hurt she was o I said "I'll take her" and she said "Its ok Ive got her" and I said NO I;ll take her..and I had to literally tear my daughter out of the weirdo's arms!

Answer 2

oh my god, that's AWFUL.  I was expecting you to list the typical MIL complaints (which I would give you sympathy for), but this is crazy. I have no advice, since clearly she does what she wants anyway. You've been far more patient than I would. Definitely be stern and firm and do not waver. I would also come down HARD on my husband though. He needs to be loyal and supportive of YOU -- not his mom?!  

Answer 3

i would suggest changing your locks. tell hubby to take charge of his family.

....but good lord your monster-in-law makes mine look like Mary Freaking Poppins!

I would seriously think about relocating somewhere very far away!! im serious. this woman sounds like she is set on raising your child, and she most likely WILL if you dont get the h**l away from her.

Answer 4

change the locks ! seriously!

Answer 5

Time to change the locks...then she might get it.  

Answer 6

WOW,I think you seriously need to change your locks first, not kidding, then maybe you need to write out what boundaries you need, what bothers you and give it to her, maybe then she'll pay attention to what your trying to say.  I hope this helps.

Answer 7

I agree with everyone else:  change the locks asap and the call cops next time she comes in uninvited.  As if she has the gall to do something like sell your bunnies!  I would literally kick her in the a$$!

Answer 8

whoa. thats above and beyond anything anyone should ever have to deal with. change every lock and dont provide her with a key in the first place.  she cant get a key for new locks unless shes given one. and thats so intrusive. I would just be a complete beeyotch and call the cops when she "breaks in" she needs to learn somehow and obviously telling her nicely or even not so nicely isnt working. if she goes in your house, call the cops and say you think theres an intruder. I seriously would tell her she is NOT allowed to see her grandchild unless she respects YOUR wishes. your husband needs to grow a backbone and tell her to eff off or support you in your choice to make a legal effort to get her off your back. what an awful woman! re arrange your furniture EXACTLY the way it was before, and take the curtains down and give them to goodwill. Its your place, and you have the right to keep it how YOU want.  if she brings people over, embarrass her in front of them, "I THOUGHT I MADE IT CLEAR THAT I DIDNT WANT GUESTS! PLEASE LEAVE!" she wont be so quick to bring people over if shes been told off in front of them. i know i wouldnt.

Answer 9

ha wow thats really annoying. maybe you need to start seeking a restraning order or something?! maybe instead of taking her key, you need to get your locks changed. its hard to keep away someone who is so pushy and so disrespectful.