What would you say if you were me,or how do you explain?????

Question

i just went thru a miscarriage on wed. I'm going back to work on tues.

I'm a hairstylist and most of my clients knew i was pregnant,i don't wanna talk about,i know people mean well, but

what would you say:

i lost the baby, i don't wanna talk about it please?

i don't know

i need some insight.......PLEASE

Answer 1

I would say this:  "I appreciate your concern, but I really don't feel comfortable talking about this right now"                        and btw ~ I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you feel better soon! :)

Answer 2

When I lost my last pregnancy, I just explained that I had lost the baby, and it pains me to talk about it...  Honesty is the best policy when it comes to your feelings, and they'll understand...  

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss; I can imagine it's a really hard thing to go through, both emotionally and physically.

I think what you said would work just fine. You don't really have to "explain" anything. Just say that you miscarried and leave it at that?  I'm sure once you say that they will not ask any more questions.  

Answer 4

After i had my miscarriages and people would ask how the baby was i would say that it sadly passed away. i would like there prayers in this difficult time but rather not talk about it because it brings me to tears. usually people wont ask for th details and if they do i would say if you continue to ask and i start crying while doing your hair. i am not responsible if you become bald in the process.. i don't think most people will ask . i am very sorry for your loss. I have been pregnant 8 time with3 miscarriages and i tubal pregnancy in my quest to have children. I now have 3 that are mine and 2 that are hubby's. I am sorry for your loss. big hugs to you.  

Answer 5

Im sorry I know how difficult it is ...

I had a misscarriage when I was working and had to go back to work and tell people what happened ...

I only said "no offense but I lost my child and I dont want to talk about it because its hard for me." and I walked away ... the word went out and people didnt mention it anymore ,,

Good luck  

Answer 6

well tell them that you dont want to talk about it and let them know that you lost it, people are normally respective about this issue.

Answer 7

Im sorry for you loss I would explain if they ask that you had problems carrying it I hate when people say they lost it because you cant lose a baby like you lose your car keys its more understandle saying you had problems carrying the baby. I think your clients will then take a hint and pry not carry on a conversation about it but if they try tell them its something you dont feel comfortable talking about.  

Answer 8

You don't even need to bring it up if you don't want to.

When my father died I didn't want to say anything to anyone either. I did not. I let people come to me and when they said something about it (they knew) I said "thank-you, but I really don't want to talk about it" and they understood.

In your situation you could tell them that you had one and say "right now that's really all I wanted to let you know, and I'm not really comfortable speaking any more about it." or if they ask you how things are you can say "I'm very upset, I lost the pregnancy. But, I really do not want to talk about it."

The vast majority of people are really understanding. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

I would hope that people would have enough sensitivity to not ask but if they do I would thank them for their concern and tell them the truth, that you are just not ready to talk about it yet.  

Answer 10

Just exactly that.  "I don't want to talk about it."  How much more clear can you be?  I'm sorry for your loss.  

Answer 11

I'm a hairdresser as well so i can definitely relate because i was debating on if i should tell my clients before i was out of the woods but my clients are too much like my friends. and for that reason i also truly believe that they would also have the compassion to understand if you don't want to talk about it. however it might be therapeutical when the time is right to talk to the ones that are close to you because if your clients are like mine there are a few that are like family and always know the right things to say...you know they say we are like shrinks but sometimes it works the other way too. i think if i was you i would just say when they ask "things didn't turn out  the way they should have but im really not ready to talk about it" i think you will be amazed at all the love and support you will rereceive and try to change the subject to a lighter note to take your mind off things. if they have kids say so did your son start back to school? or how was your summer did you have a vacation? good luck hun my thoughts are with you and if you just cant handle it take a little longer. everyone grgrievesifferent. if you need to talk email me anytime.

Answer 12

That is exactly what I said when I lost two babies.  There isn't anything wrong with that.  Maybe say, "I lost the baby, I really appreciate your concern, but I don't want to talk about it please."  I am very sorry that you are having to go through this.  Hugs to you!