What would you say if your 19 year old sister got preggy?

Question

By some low life that doesn't work and doesn't want to work, who she has only been seeing for a few months and wanted to be treated like a grown up (as she baby of family) so she thought getting preggy would be really grown up. Still living at home! Am I wrong to be livid!

Answer 1

i think the only thing you can do in this situation is support her.

Answer 2

It's her life but sometimes it takes another point of view. Wanting to grow up should never be used as an excuse to get pregnant.

Answer 3

nothing. it would be her choice to have a child. it's her life not mine.

Answer 4

its none of ur business

Answer 5

You might feel angry but you gotta face it because its her life her decisions:) x

Answer 6

i would congradulate her and help her in any way possible. hey she is an adult let her do what she wants.

Answer 7

first say congatulations then say although you dont always agree on her partner you will always be there if she needs you no matter what time of day or night she needs you then let her live her own life only intervene if he is treating her badly

Answer 8

Congratulations if she was happy...and if she wasn't I'd just tell her I'd be there for her.

Answer 9

Id be like "I have an older sister?"

I would be there for and help her care for the baby.

Answer 10

if shes 19, it's up to her if she wants to start a family, shes an adult for gods sake!

Answer 11

Its her life and up to her but be grateful she is 19 and not a silly 16 year old.

Answer 12

umm... if she gets pregnant she should love the guy and not do it only to seem grown up ... and the way YOU describe the dude isnt dat ...charming

Answer 13

well it was not smart but she is an adult and it was her decision

give me a thumbs down but if she thinks she is grown enough for it then so be it!!!

Answer 14

id be like whoa...

then if she wuz happy then id be happy!

Answer 15

lol i wish you luck,

Answer 16

Livid?....Or jealous?

Answer 17

its her life

Answer 18

well she wont be the first and wont be the last just let her know you are there for her

Answer 19

if my 19yo sister got preggie?

i don't have a sister so i would be doubly surprised at having a sister at all

Answer 20

You are so right to be livid but she is still your sister and at some stage she is going to be looking to you for support.don't betray her,blood is thicker than water If you can help her and be there for her when she needs you that is worth more than anything on this earth.

edit:I still stick to what I say,someday she will need your support.

Answer 21

I would tell her congrats! 19 really isnt that young. Its not like she is 15 or anything. She is legally an adult. If she is happy then,thats great. And the father doesnt really matter. If she likes him,then good for her.

Answer 22

My mom got pregnant with my older sister when she was 19, but then again, her and my dad were already engaged and had been dating for three years and he had a good job and well, yeah, but it doesn't necessarily make her a grown up, but don't be too hard on her. She's old enough to be a single parent and do okay at it, I mean, she has a high school diploma and she's old enough to do almost everything an adult can so, it's her life.

Answer 23

to me, thats old enough to be responsible for a baby. its the 12 and 13 year olds having babies we need to be concerned about. (even though i do have great respect for those young mums who take care of their baby well!)

If my 19 year old sister got pregnant...

Id smile and say congratulations (=

As i did that when my sister was 18 and had her 2nd baby.

she is turning 21 soon!

Answer 24

Congratulations?  It's her life, she's old enough to know what she is doing whether you agree with it or not.  As her sister the only thing you can do is offer advice/opinions and be there for her

Answer 25

you have every right to be livid! although theres a baby involved now and no time for regrets. its abvious form your description rthe father wont be along to help so then you must tell you sister how you feel and sort things out and support her all the way

You can't turn back time, its done and now theres one more life involved.

xox

Answer 26

yeah your kind of wrong

1* its none of your business

2* shes over the age of majority, meaning she can do as she pleases as long it doesnt conflict with any laws

3* she probaly has enough people getting all up in her face about this, she doesnt need her sister to do it too

its her life, you cant do anything about it but be there for her.  if your not going to be there for her thats your choice but dont make the situation worse by being livid or breathing down her neck.

-hollyy

Answer 27

Well, I don't know. By 19-20 lots of young women are having babies. I know its not so good if you're a young teen, but actually I know loads of people who i went to school with who are now mums, one's just had twins, another has 3 children, and I'm 22. As long as they have a job, a house and the dedication then I think its ok, but not as a way of making a statement, or without any stability in her life.

I would be worried for her, but I think the best thing you can do is just let it go and try and support her- I mean what can you do? Getting upset won't achieve anything except make her feel as though people are looking down on her which is one way of encouraging her immaturity, and lowering her confidence. Now she's pregnant she needs to grow up and have confidence in order to deal with this.

Answer 28

Its her life, Not yours...

All you can do is be there for her & offer advice & opinions.

More importantly, she needs her sister to be there for her :)

If your not going to support her, you'll be making the situation worse.

Your going to be an aunty! Why arn't you excited?

Good luck x

Answer 29

if she TRIED to get pregnant, you have every right to be livid!

i think the family might have spoiled her too much.

tell her tha since she is pregnant and already a grown up, that now she can move out on her own, get a job and support herself without her famly's help and see what she thinks about that.

Answer 30

no your not wrong. you have to be stable enough to bring a child into a home. meaning both spouses need to be able to rais the childand give the child the love and care it needs. if he is not working how will he support his chiild and childs mother?

Answer 31

I think she probably already feels bad enough, and a lot of people are coming down on her already.  If I were your sister I would hope you would be supportive and accepting and just BE THERE.  That's really what she needs the most now.