I would consider my husband a spiritual man, but he isn't a church goer. We have wonderful conversations about God and he is very knowledgeable. I attend regularly, but he doesn't come. I don't ask him anymore because I figure he knows where I'm going Sunday mornings and if he wanted to attend, he would. I don't want to force church on him if he isn't feeling it. Anyway, he told me last night that the reason he doesn't like to go is because he sits there feeling guilty about things he does (like drinking too much, smoking, and not spending time with the kids) and the things he doesn't do as a husband and father that he knows he should. The church I go to is not a church that doles out guilt. The reason I'm asking is because I feel he is on the edge of wanting to go, but coming up with reasons not to. I can sense that he sincerely wants to change, but is overwhelmed by the change and the challenge it requires. I've reassured him that noone is perfect and that we all have issues, but I would love to hear suggestions on how or what to say to him regarding his excuse. He is very aware that I'm not pushing him to go to church...I would love him to go, but I want it to be his choice if he does. He is on the verge of change, what should I do to be a supportive and loving wife? I just want him to be happy and feel proud of himself and his achievements rather than guilty over his shortcomings. Any advice?
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