What would you suggest in regards to a Maid of Honor fall out?

Question

I made a big mistake in choosing my maid of honor. Weeks before the wedding she said she had school and could not help me much, but it turns out she helped with nothing! My 2 other brides maids picked up all the slack. They had the same amount of school work if not more and they did everything for me. My maid of honor didn't help me get dresses, she stayed by her boyfriends side all night long, didn't get up and spend time with me until I mentioned it. After the reception my husband and I went out with our friends and she was no where to be found. My family, friends and I even noticed she had an attitude all night.

When I confronted her about this issues she just sent me an e-mail saying that "we obviously disagree on everything so we should just part ways".

She is in all my pictures now. What advice can you give you get through this? Why would a supposed friend do such a thing?

Answer 1

You know what? It could be her, or it could be the way she perceived she was being treated. I wouldn't worry about it. It's over. If you value the friendship, you can try to reach out to her. If not, then the friendship is probably over.

There are usually two sides to each issue. You might just have to avoid the subject of your wedding and move on.  

Answer 2

I came across this and d**n!

Duckie and Joy25 are probably the fat single ones who have never gotten married, or they are the ones like your maid of honor... all jealous and F***** up because they will never get married.  

That was messed up she did that S*** to you.  Forget the B****

Answer 3

Forget her.  Why are you begging for this girl's friendship.  She showed and proved that she was not a friend by the way she acted in neglecting her duties as MoH and her attitude problems during your wedding.  I think she was right, just go your separate ways.  So she is in your pictures.  Most married couples have people in their pictures and even in their wedding parties that they do not even know where they are anymore.  So ignore her she is not important and when you look at your wedding pictures if all you can see is her then you are the one with the problem.  She is not worth one more moment of your time.  consider it good riddance.  She didn't sound like much of a friend in the first place

Answer 4

She sounds like me.  (LOL)  She probably does love you but has a lot on her plate...(which if she IS anything like me, that is ALWAYS the case!!)  Let her be! Don't hold on to the grudge.  Move on.  Still be her friend, she may just not be your BEST-friend, that's all.  Let it go, move on, but stay friends.  Call her very other week or so to make sure she is fine & stuff! Ok?  Good luck!

Answer 5

It sounds as if you really tried to make things right with her.  She must be jealous, or she just has too many issues of her own.  I wouldn't worry about people like that.  

As a maid of honor, she has MAJOR duties.  If she didn't try then I would say don't even make the effort to reconnect.  You tried and it seems that she made the decision to part ways for stupid reasons.

P.S. You could have cussed her and your bridesmaids out that day then apologized the next and it should have been OK because it was YOUR day.  It's stressful and your friends need to understand that.

Don't worry about her.  Enjoy your life with your new husband.  

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Have you ever thought it could be you and the way she was being treated? She is not required to be up in your face every hour just because u got married! She told u she couldnt be there all the time,so what now! People o have lives outside of your wedding! Did u take time out to see what was going on in her life? Sometime we get so caught up in the moment that we forget about are friends lives also!

It sound like you could have been a bridezilla!

Answer 7

Your "friend" has a bad case of immature, boorish behavior....hard to make sense of it....wish that one "good riddance".   It's really hard to make sense of crazy.....if you see her, say hello, and move on.  Don't waste your time wondering or you'll spin your "wheels" off...you have a wonderful life ahead of you with your new husband...enjoy!!

Edit:  Do remember that your wedding is about you and your husband; not some priggish "maid of honor".

The "duties" of a "maid of honor".....

http://www.weddinggazette.com/content/00...

Bridesmaid responsibilities....

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-are-some-br...

Answer 8

She is probably jealous that you got married.  There is really nothing that you can do.  It is her problem!  Just try and remember all the good things about your special day.  When you look at your photos, remember the good time you had when you were friends, not the frustration that she caused you.

Answer 9

weddings bring out the best and worst in people.Obviously she found something to be insulted about, whether real or imagined.Her whole attitude is offensive to the occasion and I'm sorry it turned out this way for you.However, on the bright side, you managed to navigate through the day, you have two bidesmaids to appreciate, and a life to live.She made it clear that she is not happy with your situation and may feel left out because you are married and she is still a maiden(LOL).So, put this part behind you, and maybe later you and she will make up and you will still have memories that she at least attended.

Answer 10

It could be jealousy, it could be that there was some miscommunication or misunderstanding.

Don't let this wreck your wedding memories.  It is about you and your husband, not her ...she is one small part of the event.

Give her time and hopefully she will see the errors she made and apologize.

Answer 11

Well, first of all, your maid of honor and bridesmaids are not required to help you with anything.  You and your future husband are responsible for the planning of your wedding.  She is also not required to attend any parties or after-parties (except for the wedding).  Her job is to buy the dress you select and move on.

Your maid of honor probably had a life.  She warned you she could not help, so why are you holding it against her now?  You confronting her probably made her realize that you didn't want her to stand by and be your friend, you wanted a slave to do your bidding.  You have no idea what was going on her life, and you have no right to insinuate that she should've been by your side instead of her boyfriend's.

You can't do anything about her in your photos, but you should apologize to her for being so demanding and insensitive and hope that you'll be able to salvage the relationship.