...with bragging, grand-standing, competitiveness, unsolicited advice-giving, etc.? Basically codependency masked in a huge Leo personality. The friend I have in mind has a lot of positive qualities, but when she is on the phone (long-distance no less) she just gets on a roll. At times, it's almost comical and predictable. E.g. if you were to tell her you have a nice blue shirt on, she would tell you that she too has a nicer aquamarine blue shirt made with silk, and then she would tell you how to say "aquamarine silk shirt" in French. :) At other times, it's just tragic and exhausting.
We have known each other for a long time. She was kind of the black sheep growing up in her family, so now as an adult she has this tendency to blow her image/ego way up out of proportion. It's a sign of insecurity. Plus her husband, who loves her very much (as I do) is very critical. He stands by her but is never satisfied with her.
Her soul is basically screaming out to the world or to anyone who will listen, "Please love me. Please tell me I'm wonderful." I understand. I grew up in a pretty dysfunctional family too. But the telephone conversations are getting so that I spend less and less time with her on the phone.
I think it is time to tell her how I feel, but I want to do it in a respectful way that doesn't hurt her. Is this even possible? What would you say if this were your friend?
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