What would you tell your son?

Question

At home, you hear 2 doors slam. One's the front door, the other is the door to your son's room(age 8). You go in to see what's wrong and though his window, you can see the two boys that chased him home, sneering up at the window. What do you tell your son?

Answer 1

tell him those kids are bullies, get their names call their parents, who could probably care less.

Answer 2

I would go out and ask the boys what the h**l was going on and scare the c**p out of them if needed

Answer 3

First I would ask them how the boys were making him feel and what they were doing to make him feel that way.  I would then ask him if he did anything to the boys. (There is always two or more sides to EVERY story).....With this information, I would call the parents of the other children and tell them what you saw and the story your son told you.  

Suggest a get together with the boys and their parents along with you and your son

Answer 4

I would ask what happened, and I would take a picture of the little a.s.swipes sneering at him and talk to their parents in person.

Answer 5

Give him some time to calm down.  Then ask what happened.  If he doesn't want to talk tell him about how kids don't always get along and how you remember what it was like.  Tell him that bullying is not ok.  Tell him you saw the two boys outside sneering when he came home.  If he doesn't talk, go to a therapist.  If it is anything serious, like he was hit or his belongings were taken, broken ect I would confront the kids parents.  If the parents are not helpful I would contact the police.  Sounds extreme, but what parents of an 8 yr old are going to allow their kids to be involved with the police.  I would expect most parents would say stay away from that kid, which is what you want.

Answer 6

I would tell him to have 4 of his friends hide in the bushes so when he runs buy with them chasing him they can jump out and beat the s**z out of them

Answer 7

same as Answerer 1. I'd ask him what was going on.

Answer 8

Have you thought about confronting the two boys that are outside your home?  In a James Dobson book that is how one mother took charge of her son being bullied.  It may not work in every case.

  You could @ least tell them to get off your property since they are trespassing.

Answer 9

tell him not to worry,if theyre in the same school go to the principal,if not,go to the parents,and stand your ground,no matter how tough they (think they may be,)your child is the most important thing in your life and you should do anything and everything to protect them,ive been there,and though im not talking to the bullies parents,my daughter and said bully are good friends now.

Answer 10

tell him what was going on

if he doesnt answer...just say

that you can always be there

for him and help him with his needs

if you found out what happened

tell him to tell you the kids names

(also ask if they attend at his school or in classes, etc.)

then call the school and report it

and make sure they have the other kids parents

in contact.

if  they dont attend at his school or classes next time they come you tell them something that

can keep them away from your child

or call the police and they can find them and

find out where they live and contact there parents

and it could be charged with tresspasing or a threat.

hope this helps =)

Answer 11

Ask him how much money he owes 'em!!

Answer 12

Tell him that some people were not raised correctly and dont repect other.  then ask him waht happened and why they were following him home.  Ask him if there is something you or anyone else can do to help the situation and if other issues are going on you may not be aware of.

Answer 13

I'd go out and see the boys who chased him. As soon as they see an adult they'll be scared and run off.

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Answer 14

give him a pillow case and a rock, honestly sounds like he needs at least a reputation of being a crazy b*****d even if he actually doesn't do anything they wont mess. My dad gave my lil bro a empty shotgun cuz bullies were beating him up every day he chased them for about 200 yards they never messed again

Answer 15

Give him some time to cool out and calm down.  Then go in and ask if anything happened and if he wants to talk about it.  Tell him he has a right to defend himself from bullying and one of the ways to do that is to tell you what happened.  Likely you'll have to make some kind of deal not to do anything that may embarrass him but tell him that, no matter what, you're on his side and will be there for him.  He may not tell you, he's at that age where it's not "cool" to have your mom help you anymore.  But you can just let him know that you're there for him if he wants to talk and that you're his advocate.  I have a 7 year old - I know what you're going through!  Good luck.

Answer 16

I'd ASK him what is going on?

Answer 17

RING THOSE TWO BRATS PARENTS AND SPEAK TO THEM. HOPEFULLY THEY WILL SPEAK TO THEIR KIDS ABOUT IT AND PUT AN END TO IT. TALK TO YOUR CHILD AND LET HIM KNOW THAT HE CAN ALWAYS TALK TO YOU OR COME FOR HELP.

Answer 18

What's going on?

Answer 19

I agree.  I would ask him what had been going on and find out if this was a one off argument between some mates or there was a serious bullying issue to consider.

As long as you ask him in a compassionate way and make him understand that you are there to help.

If the boys are from his school and you believe they are bullying him you need to alert the school as this could be going on from when he leaves home to when he returns.

Answer 20

tell him he can always talk to you no matter what and try and find out how long this has been going on