I had my best friend and co workers' oldest daughter (20) watch my three grade school children and grandson before and after work. It was their second day of school and she picked them up 45 minutes late. She realized she was late and went and picked up her middle school sister first! Then when I came home my 9 year old son was on the floor crying. He wouldn't get up until I told him he could go straight to the van and we would go home. He said through his head in his arms and tears that her 15 year old brother hurt him. I got my 6 year old and grandson and my 10 year old had walked home (up the hill because her 16 year old brother was putting him and my 9 year old in headlocks but of course the babysitter and her grandparents said they were playing. I find this hard to believe coming from three adults that allowed the 15 year old to do this to my 9 year old and was laughing. They were suppose to be protecting him and instead he had no one)! I told her she will never watch my kids down there again and we left. When we got home I found out that the fifteen year old had pinned him down and took his fingers and repeatedly poked him in the chest. It was red when I called and fired her immediately and told her mother, my friend what had happened. Later, about 45 minutes, he started to devolpe a bruise about the size of two quarters. I called my friend and had her come up to see the bruises. She said that he was the one wanting to wrestle with her son, who is 15!!!!!, and that he basically was asking for it. I was so mad. I did agree that she didn't have to tell her fiance because he was staying at his mom's for a week because of her kids and how they behave. She would have no place to go if he kicked her out. I thought she would still disciplne him and even her daughter because in my opinion it was ultimately her fault since she was there and laughing about it and in charge. Well, 5 days later and he still has a bruise the size of two quarters on his chest and come to find out a rug burn on his arm from where it rubbed when he was sitting on his wrists. I talked to her youngest daughter and she said that her mom had not punished him and she had two bruises on her leg from the same brother. My husband overheard this and he called and told her fiance because he said, later when I confronted him about calling, that he thought he needed to know so he could keep an eye on this boy so he doesn't do it again to any other kids. He said he wasn't trying to stir up any trouble he just couldn't accept that nothing was done and obviously my friend didn't think it was a big deal and that it was "kids being kids"! Needless to say now she is mad at me and my husband because she thinks I knew that he called and him for calling. She also said that her fiance and everyone at work (where I work also but wasn't there because I had a son out from school today) thought that my husband was wrong and I was wrong for being upset. Am I crazy or am I the only sane person in this world?!? Would you be as upset as I am and would you be equally upset that it has gotten turned around to where my husband and I are the bad guys? Honestly I am furious now not just at her attitude towards this but everyone else I work with that thinks its just kids being kids when a 15 year old pokes my 9 year olds chest for so long that it rubbed a carpet burn and a bruise the size of two quarters that is still there 5 days later. Please answer honestly. I don't think I am overreacting and I am finding it even hard to be mad at my husband, even if he did not talk to me before calling. I wish he would have but I have to say that I understand his reasoning. Thanks for your opinions......
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