What would you think/do if a shy, quiet college girl had a crush on your husband (a priest)...?

Question

She rarely talks to him, but she doesn't look him in the eyes. She doesn't respond to most of the things he says...he jokes around a lot. She rarely talks to anyone, she just sits down after church & waits for her uncle to leave. She volunteers a lot for various things. You have kids. She doesn't know her father.

Answer 1

What?  Priest can have wives?  WTF are you talking about...What?

Answer 2

Well, I wouldn't think anything.  Your little description makes it seem like no one knows you exist, let alone have a crush on a priest.

Crushes are fine... and Mr. Morality probably hasn't the slightest idea...

Who doesn't know her father?  Daddy issues....???

Answer 3

She isn't doing anything to make him notice her or isn't trying to talk to him it sounds like.  I think she's safe.  Even if she was doing that, the way your husband responds should be the main concern.  

Answer 4

She rarely talks to him, doesn't respond to him, and you think she has a crush on him? Am I missing something here??

Answer 5

sounds to me like the priest likes that the shy, quiet college girl has a crush on him, and is interested in "taking her" for himself.  as he has kids - and he cannot have a wife.

are you asking us our opinion?  if so - and if i'm correct - i think that's a very selfish, piggy, sick thing to do.  i'd advise the priest to leave that young girl alone.  she is very well capable of leading a healthy, happy life without his assistance.

Answer 6

nothing in your posting makes me suspect in any way that this girl has any kind of crush on your husband.  nothing.  even if she did, what does it matter?  as long as he doesn't act upon anything, i would just let it go.  she sounds like a nice, sincere, but shy girl.  no more, no less.

Answer 7

I would think, "How is it possible that my husband is a priest, when priests aren't supposed to marry?"

How exactly do you "know" that she has a crush on him? She's shy, and she doesn't talk to him or look at him. That doesn't sound like a crush to me.

Answer 8

wow i don't really know what to tell you! she isn't shy at all! be care with her and good luck

Answer 9

L, your going to burn in h**l for this one.

Answer 10

WHO wrote this?  The "shy girl", the suspicious know it all wife, the Uncle, the "priest", the "kids", or.........

IF I KNEW for a FACT that someone, (regardless of their personality or background), had a "crush" on my husband (regardless of what his job is), I would very calmly sit down with them, and calmly explain what marriage is, what marriage is NOT, why crushes are not a good thing, how I feel about it, and what I will most likely DO, if this crush does not "go away", like, now.  

I strongly believe that it is best to deal with things when you first see them - like preventative maintenance.  All the background information really does not matter. If there is a problem, it needs to be addressed - pretty simple - just DEAL WITH IT to make it all go away.  

Answer 11

Why am I getting some weird cult like vibe (not to be offensive or betlittle your concern).  A good looking, charismatic Preacher (prophet, savior made flesh etc.) with a wife / kids & a young shy girl.  He convinces his wife that "polygamy" is the will of the lord and he takes this shy young girl as his second wife.

As to your problem, I'm not sure how you handle the situation.  I would think most Priests, Preachers, Pastors whatever and their wives would want to try and help this girl out by trying to help her with her shyness and also showing her a proper loving relationship between a man & his wife.  The other option is to be on the defensive and confront her head on, though you might be completely wrong in your assumption (ie her having a crush on your husband.).