What would you think of a man who said this?

Question

there's this guy who completely repulses me. just the way he looks repulses me. he told me outright that he wants "to be my boyfriend", in so many words. a grown man in his 30's. and even though i told him in so many ways that i was not interested, he still says things like "why don't you just go ahead and say 'i want you to be my boyfriend' hehe". i am so disgusted by him. i'm trying to be as nice as possible, but obviously nice doesn't work with him.

Answer 1

Question: Why are you even talking to this guy...do you work together? You need to stop entertaining him with conversation...period. If possible, Hello and goodbye should be the only things you have to say to him. He could be delusional and dangerous. It is evident that he is not working with a full deck in the brain. Some delusional men will create this relationship in their mind that they have with you and it is so far from the truth...but, you feed his delusions by continuing a conversations with him daily/weekly/etc. AVOID AND INVOLVE THE POLICE IF NEED BE...HIS NEXT MOVE WILL BE STALKING IF YOU DON'T. GOOD LUCK WITH COMMON SENSE.

Answer 2

Totally ignore him. Whatever spot he's standing in, let that be your blind spot or deaf spot.  

Answer 3

Ahh, I went through that with a guy that I was disgusted with also... he kept saying so many things he shouldnt have said and I tried being nice as well, but you're right... nice doesn't work with these people... finally I just told him off, I was like, I don't want you, and I definitely don't like it when you talk to me this way, so stop or else I'm going to stop talking to you for good... and he stopped, try that.

Answer 4

I'd make sure I never had to come into contact with this dense loser again. But obviously there's some reason why you can't cut him out of your life. What is it?

Answer 5

It's quite clear that the time for being nice has passed. You've tried that and it didn't work. Tell him that you've tried to be nice, but it didn't work and then lay it on the line: loud and proud: You've had enough, back off, shut up, leave me the F alone!!!!

Answer 6

I have had that. Stop talking to them...don't even look at them...if he still doesn't take the hit, you have to be mean about it! Don't care - he's hurtig you so hurt him back! Never feel guilty...restraining order or sexual harassment charges against him, doesn't matter! He might be delusional like one other person said. Or a rapist, you never know...

Why are you sharing personal information on  your life with him, anyways??

Answer 7

do u guys work together or take college classes together? If so then get him for sexual harrasment, thats gross and soooo wrong poor thing:(

Answer 8

You are going to have to be very blunt and tell him, that you are not interested, will never be interested, and that you really don't want him to even talk to you. If that doesn't get the fact across to him, then he is hopeless, and you will have to walk the other way when you see him.  

Answer 9

yeah he's got the idea that you do want him, in his sick mind but I think you're not just "being nice" but you're flirting with him. You like it too right now because you don't have anyone special in your life. You could blow him out the water but you sound like you could use a lot more 'life lessons' yourself. Who knows, you two may even become a hot item one of these days, once you get past his looks.

Answer 10

Totally ignore him....sounds like a real weirdo!!!!!  RUNNNN

Answer 11

Just tell him he's not your type and you are looking for certain things in common you two don't have and it will never work so he should start looking for someone else and someone he'll be more compatible with or tell him you are back with someone you knew from school.

Answer 12

I would be a blunt toward him as he is to you!!!  Just lay it on him next time and say "Look, I am not interested in you in any other way except to be friendly, so please stop harrassing me for a relationship with you."  If you clearly don't really care about him, who cares what he thinks?  If he isn't anyone who can hurt you, your career, your family or friends by what he says or does, who cares?  Some people just don't get the message and need to be told straight out.

Answer 13

If you want him to stop, be honest and tell him you find him revolting.  After that he won't bother you again.

Answer 14

Quit being nice to him.... get up in face, speak loud and clear that your not interested in such a repulsive man, tell him that you recently started dating someone and that your very serious in your relationship (not that you would really be in a relationship, but maybe telling him that might make him back off) its also sounds like hes stalking you a bit.. tell him if he doesn't stop your going to call the law, get a restraining order against him.. he sees you being nice to him, and telling him your not interested in a nice way keeps him going towards you.. raise your voice.. put your foot down, ignore him, if you have to be rude be rude... do anything to get him to stop.. also i wouldn't discuss personal things with him or talk about places you might go or things you might do.. that's giving him good conversation with you and that keeps him going.. thinking that if keeps bugging you about being his gf, you will do it just to shut him up.. Let the people around you know whats going on and even have a friend or two around when hes doing or saying these things.. kinda like a witness thing on your part.. and tell him NO means NO.. bug off.. take a long walk off a short bridge, but as long as your telling him NO in a nice way he will keep on bugging you .. Good Luck

Answer 15

These type of people you just need to be mean and literally blunt with and even then sometimes they still will look at you like you are nuts.

I would say, "Look I told you I am not interested in you. You disgust me. Go away and leave me alone or else I will call the police and get a restraining order". I guarantee after hearing restraining order he will leave you alone.

I know it sounds harsh, but heh these type of people don't seem to get anything else.  

Answer 16

run from him at every chance.

Answer 17

Why are you around him so much if he repulses you?  If he is a coworker then go to HR and say he is harassing you.  You rae right that being nice doesn't seem to be working so you will just have to be blunt with him and tell him in no uncertain terms you are not interested and to stop bothering you.

Answer 18

And you posted this in Marriage and Divorce because.....?