What would you think of a man who took the woman's name when they were married?

Question

and why would you think that.

Answer 1

I actually know of someone who did this. my ex g/f's husband after we broke up it seemed she changed she found a guy on an online dating site who was desperate to get married she married him and he took her last name now they have a baby and he seems like a very meek kind of guy not in bad way hes really a very nice guy and a good father where im a kind of a bad boy

type she refuses to speak to me even now after 5 years but when i go visit her next door nieghbor whos a friend of mine i catch her peeking at me through the curtains and by the way all the men in our area make fun of him

but i dont he gave my ex something i wouldnt and couldnt, control

Answer 2

Understand the situation but fail to see the problem.  What do you think of a woman that took her husband's name when they got married?

Answer 3

But you would never be taking a woman's name..you would be taking another man's name, her father's so the question is dead in the water.

Well, unless she was called Brenda and he quite liked that as his first name instead.

Answer 4

Personally I think it's totally hot.

The irony of course is that most women have their names from their fathers anyway, so it's still patriarchy.

I personally like the idea of creating a new name from both last names, which is fair to both heritages. The problem with this of course is the logistics of changing one's name is doubled :P

EDIT: I think most men don't care because it's about another man. But when you ask if they would do it, none of them would be willing to. I dare you to ask the question ;)

Answer 5

At one time it was almost a fad thing Murph.  It's okay I guess, but a little strange.  I kept my maiden name as my middle name and did not use a dash in it when I got married.  That has worked well for me.  

I realize a lot of people change their last names for many reasons and it's really up to them.  I suppose if someone really felt strongly about doing it, I would support them, I just see no real need for it.

Answer 6

I'd think that it was their personal preference. Maybe he isn't close to his family, maybe there isn't anyone on her side to carry the name on to the kids. Stuff like that. I wouldn't think any less of it, what matters is their love not the name. So what ever works for them is what they should do.

Answer 7

I think it is the same as if the woman takes the mans name. I would always go with the "prettier" name, since both have to live with it for a long while.  

Answer 8

yes.

becasue it is traditional.  

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with it if that's what he wants to do. Some men do it because they have an extremely common last name and want something more unusual or they're estranged from their fathers and don't want to carry around that reminder. Others have names that are difficult to pronounce or spell. Perhaps they have a name that caused them to be teased a lot as a child. There are all kinds of reasons a man might do this.

Answer 10

I would assume he's whipped.

No self-respecting man would willingly surrender their surname.

Answer 11

I would think, Wow, he must've had an awful "maiden" name! Like Focker, or something. Good for him for thinking and deciding for himself.

Answer 12

Well, i only know one man who ever did that. He had problems with his family and basically cut them out of his life. His taking his wife's name was seemingly his way of getting rid of the reminder.

I think any man who takes his wife's name does so for a reason. I say more power to him if that's what he wants to do. It's not like women have to be the only ones giving up our names. I can already foresee last name being an isssue when I get married. I like my name, and my current, serious, boyfriend seems the type to want me to take his name. It's a bridge we all have    

Answer 13

I would think that one more sub boy has bitten the dust.  I'm assuming that every wee-male would like to take his mommy's name.

Answer 14

I would think he was incredibly secure in himself and his masculinity.

You know, some people are going to rag on him just because they feel the need.

When I was stationed at Langley, one of the first sergeants hyphenated his name (his wife did too) and nobody said a word.   I think the fact that he was 6'5 and was pretty sturdy probably helped.

Answer 15

A: I wouldn't care, because that's a personal decision

B: If it was a guy who wanted to take MY name, I'd be annoyed because my family sucks and I wouldn't want him saddled with that name and my last name is distinctive (it's in the dictionary) and I don't want too many people having it.

Answer 16

Brave!!!!

Self Explanatory!

Answer 17

i think it was his personal choice and I like that he would do it.  why should it always be the woman who has to change her name?  actually, I think all should keep their own for life.

Answer 18

er that's a strange custom.  So, the man takes the woman's name and we switch that around to his having to submit to her every whim....we're not going there into the sexual arena.  We're talking here about what it symbolizes to a lot of women.  A lot of women want it to be like that so they can get mentally away from the chains of submission. What a poisonous thought to be playing with in the first place.  A name is only a name.  You're not happy keep your own and get on with it.

Answer 19

I would think that he has a sucky name.  My boyfriend's first and last names sound perverted when put together and people always make jokes when they meet him or have to see his lisecense because they don't believe him.  He actualy would prefer to take his future wife's last name.  I might also assume that he wanted to stand up for woman's rights or something, like a statement of saying "I'm going to fight back against the idea that women have to take the man's name because I believe in equality among the sexes!" or something like that.  I personally don't think it's that great of a thing to do for the children's sake.  People might assume things like his mother is a single parent, or his parents are related or something, it would just be awkward if they had a child together.  Personally I want to take my future husband's last name, unless it was obviously perverted or something.  I think it's just a sign of complete respect and love for him if you want to change your name to show that you are with him.  But I guess the same could be said vise versa with a male taking the woman's name.

Answer 20

They are non-traditional.

Answer 21

I would never even consider it.

Answer 22

well weird...but interesting at the same time.But you know not every tradition is offensive to women.I feel that getting ur husbands last name is a harmless tradition that doesn't have to be changed.

Answer 23

i would think she wore the pants in the relationship... it just seems a bit wierd.. but hey if thats what that person wants to do then go for it... who cares wut people say

Answer 24

I think its kind of strange because its not done in our culture, hyphentating names is the usual compromise. I don't think a woman should have to give up her name. However if the woman had a better name (for whatever reason) it would be understandable.

Answer 25

That's very unusual nowadays, but not unheard of. I've noticed that some hispanics do this still. In ancient times sometimes if the woman had the money and title, and the man didn't, he was allowed to assume her family's name for prestige.

I guess it's just whatever works for you. It's kinda confusing though. ♥ ∞

Answer 26

I would first ask why.  After I got an answer then I would be able to pass judgement on that topic.

My personal feelings towards the matter is I wouldn't do it.  I like my last name and to me it represents part of who I am.

Answer 27

I'm female, and I'm for it. If women take men's names, then why shouldn't men takes women's names? If I ever got married, I wouldn't take my husband's name, but I wouldn't ask him to take mine, either. I would keep my name, and he could keep his name.

Answer 28

I think most of the responses are absolutely ridiculous. Why on earth would it be a negative thing that a man took his wife's name? It just shows that some people are still ignorant and living by neanderthal view points.

I would have respect for him and admiration that he did what he believed in despite the ridiculous stupidity of people that critise him.

Answer 29

It wont be that bad. Although i am in to keeping my name and typical weddding things.

Answer 30

that he came from a matriarchal society or practiced a matriarchal religion. seen it plenty of times before, makes more sense to me. any children carry the mothers name as well because her relation is always verified.

many of my friends have chosen upon union to create an altogether new title for their last names to represent the starting of a new family or clan.

Answer 31

I would think he probably looked bizarrely stunning in his wedding gown and tiara since he is officially the wife. His most common expression is probably "whatever you say."