What wouldyou say is a respectable age to start having s*x?

Question

im 14 and i just want to know other, more mature people's opinions on the matter..x (thanks!)

Answer 1

I met my current partner at 16 and lost it to him. 16 is the legal age in the UK. I have been with the same person for 9 years now!!! And we are not married. Maybe planning to, but not yet, we are too young for that just now. (I am 26 and he is 28)

I don't believe you need to be married before you lose it. Just as long as you do it with someone who respects you and is willing to wait the first 6 months of your relationship.

You can be in a committed relationship and not be married. You can also be married and be married to a pig of a man who only want s*x all the time.

It's about communication, respect and taking responsibility for your actions. I know of a few 30 year olds who are married and are totally irresponsible with their s*x lives and contraception and children, But everyone accepts it because they are married.

14 is still young in my opinion and I wouldn't have wanted to do it before the legal age even if I was mature enough. I wouldn't have felt comfortable knowing that he could get into trouble or I could.

But I was honest and open with my mum and she went through all the options of contraception and also asked me to state my case of why I wanted to loose my virginity to this person.

Once you have done this I don't see any problems why you can't.

Marriage does not necessarily make a safe respectful loving s*x life or relationship. It also depends on the people involved and their morals.

I believe in marriage but it's not for everyone and waiting to get married to have s*x I think in this day and age can be naive and can be dangerous in certain situations. However, I totally respect and understand why people want to. I have no problem with their morals and wishes,

I just don't think it's the only option that should be given.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

when your married. It saves you a lot of hassle with comparing your spouse to a previous partner. Also it keeps you from getting diseases and ending up with a baby before you are ready. I would recommend not even dating unless you are ready and willing to marry someone in order to keep from the temptation of having any sort of sexual intercourse with someone. I'm 16.

Answer 3

I lost my virginity when I was thirteen. I regret it. But I still believe it's a personal choice. You'll know when the times right. Just don't do something cause your "caught up in the moment".  

Answer 4

i lost my virginity at 13

its a very personal thing , only you will know if you are ready.

people can judge and say what ever but i mean frankly its your business and its your body and if you don't want anyone to judge or find out , don't tell anyone.

s*x isn't exclusive for marriage , its human nature and pleasure and everyone is entitled to it .

most of all be careful

always  condom for STD's and STI's and its best to combine it with a  form of hormon contraceptive.

Answer 5

I started at 14. I was pressured in to it and the jerk ended up cheating on me!

I don't really regret it because I just don't regret things in life.... but it still sucks.

I think that you will know when it is right for you to have s*x. Nobody can give you a magic age. Just make sure you love the guy.  

Answer 6

you are far too young. And the best age to start having s*x, is whatever age you get married.

Answer 7

I was 15 and I was too young. My husband was a month off being 20 when he lost his and in hindsight he is glad he waited. I wish I had waited until I was at least 16.

Answer 8

When you're married.

I was pressured into it when I was 14 (I'm fifteen now) by my girlfriend. I'm now a father to a 13 month old daughter, and her mother left after two months and wants nothing to do with her.

Take it from an expert, and wait.

Answer 9

At least 18, or whenever you are in a very stable relationship and are able to support a child. Until then, keep your legs closed and your pants on.

Answer 10

A "respectable age"?  Well, some people are ready to get married and start a family at a younger age, because they already have career training and workable job skills at an early age.  Others are looking at several years of college.  At any rate, it's usually not a good idea to get married until you have a reliable means of support and a steady income.  Only after you are married, in a committed, sacrosanct relationship with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with should you be having s*x.

You asked for "more mature people's opinionis"--well, I'm 45, have raised kids, and am VERY happily married.  We've been married for 22 years.  Part of the reason for our success in marriage is that we did it right before we got married, laid a good foundation for our relationship, and didn't get the cart before the horse.  s*x is not a game you play, a party activity, or a recreational pursuit---it's an act of marriage, to be reserved for marriage, and only engaged in during marriage.  Good luck.

Answer 11

I think 14 is too young.  There is no rush and there is no race to lose your virginity.  I believe the average is somewhere between 17 and 18 years.

Whatever you decide you need to be responsible about your health and practise safe s*x at all times and that is not just about pregnancy avoidance but the avoidance of STIs

Anyone who tries to pressurise you into this in not someone you should be having s*x with.

Answer 12

It's not like getting a driver's license or being able to drink legally, where there is one set age at which it's okay.  It depends on so many factors, including your actual age, your maturity level, whether or not you are in a serious relationship, whether or not you are in love, whether or not you have gone in for counseling about birth and disease control and have discussed your birth control options, etc.

At fourteen, you are too young, even if you think you are mature for your age.  Having s*x is more than just a physical act.  

Answer 13

well i know people that started having s*x at 13 yrs old. but i do not til i got with my hubby. we started having s*x a few months before we got married

Answer 14

When you're married.  Yes, it's old fashioned, but it's the best option.  Why?  Because s*x is something that is supposed to be an emotional bond between two people who have committed their lives to each other.  Even if you don't believe that, when you have s*x there is always a chance of getting pregnant.  If you aren't ready to be a parent, don't have s*x.  Even grown adults who aren't married aren't always ready to be a parent, as well as some who are married.  So, wait until you're able to be a parent before you have s*x.  Adoption is a difficult option, and abortion shouldn't ever be considered an option, so just wait.

Answer 15

I'd say that you are able to have a stable relationship at about 15 years old, so I would go with that age. You are generally in highschool then, about in tenth grade.

Answer 16

im 17 with a baby on the way but engaged... best time is to wait until you find someone that you love ans that loves you back. when you are old enough to support a child fiancially and emotionally.  

Answer 17

The best age is probably two to three years later than one is tempted to.  

Answer 18

s*x age=Marriage Age

Answer 19

The most respectable age for s*x is AT LEAST one hour after the wedding ceremony.

Any earlier than that and the wedding guests may think you're rude for leaving the reception so early.

Answer 20

when you get married