What yall think about this question?What should I do about my friend shes 28 looking like shes 12?

Question

mebony68 wrote:

is it ok for a woman to look and dress like a little girl... men would you respect a woman that looks like a little girl and she is in her 20s or 30s or would you be embarrased... my friend is 28 year old a little older than me and she dress like a little girl all the time...even at work she looks like shes 14 and with her dressing so young, men dont approach as much... she has curley hair and she always has it in a ponytail...all the time... she very small (skinny) and she wears like shirts with mickey mouse, and speghetti strap shorts and jeans she doesnt wear office outfits for work.... she looks like a little girl and she acts like one... she still lives with her mom... she always says my mom wants me home at a such and such time... like a child.... my mom hollered at me today... she doesnt know how to be in an adult conversations... when people are talking at work she doesnt even talk she shys away unless its about her mother... I swear, one day I asked her did she wanna go out with me just to go out and she said I gotta ask my mom.... and she was serious....after that I was like... what the heck... I think this is the reason she is not in a relationship nor a strong friendship... because im grown... I dont want to hear about how your mothers treating you and youre 28... I also notice that people at work treat her either like a child or like shes retarded... shes not... she just need to step up her game... either move out of mom shadow, look like a grown up for once... conversate like a grown up.... am I being rude!

shes very educated... has two degrees...I went to a get together at her home and everyone was dressed up except her... I talked to one of her college friends... we were talking and the friend was like in college we would do her hair and put her on make up and she would look so pretty and have confidence about herself then when it was time to go on spring break or winter break to go back home she would get back into that child clothing talking about how she didnt think her mom wouldnt like her to wear that...I remember the lady saying she remember her moms calling alot while they were in college and when she wouldnt answer her mom would have the police and them looking for her on campus... her and this girl kindve stop being friends for a while because she said she felt like she had to be a babysitter and she never was bad.. never dated or had s*x until senior year of college once and she felt bad about it afterwards

one day we were talking and and she told me which is really wacky is when she would come back from college break her mother would have get togethers and would tell her to go and play with her cousins who was 12 and 13 she said one day (mind you she was about 19 or 20) she said until her aunt came and told her " take your a** outside a be with some girls your age youre in college(she said her aunt was probably drunk)"

Answer 1

It's certainly something to ponder.

Answer 2

She can make a fortune posing for underage p**n sites.

Answer 3

Have you asked her if she ever wants a normal relationship with a male- marriage & family?   If she does you might want to mention that she needs to separate from mom.    She needs to get an apartment, some counseling, and to realize there is nothing to fear from growing up.  

Answer 4

Sounds to me like this girl is living without any responsibility. I also thought that wearing shirts with Micky Mouse on them is a clear indication that you are older, because no self-respecting teenager would wear that type of thing.

If she's living at home for free, then she's got it made. Especially if her mother isn't making her do anything. It's sad, really - to be almost 30 and living at home. I imagine she is very naïve.  

Answer 5

It sounds like this is more than a style issue, but a maturity issue as well.

Answer 6

Sounds like she needs Stacy and Clinton from "What Not To Wear". :)

Tell her the truth. Her mother sounds very controlling, and not ready to let go of her "Little Girl". And she's just playing along! Tell her to grow up. Explain to her that 28 year olds are considered adults and not children. It sounds like she is afraid to get old and is living in a fantasy world.