this is a repost...thought I'd see if anyone else answered. If you read it already, thank you for the advice.
Before I run down the situation, a lot of people are going to think I'm dumb for this, but my mind is made up.
Me and my ex have been together for almost 6 years, and I'd like to think for the most part of it things were good. Yes, we had fights or arguments, but who doesn't after living together for 3 years?
The last six months of our relationship, she kept telling me I was going to lose her if I didn't wake up and stop being so lazy. And I just blew her off, feeling like she was being over dramatic. She said she was going to move out, and once again, I felt she was being over dramatic, so I would just say " Go then." About 2 months ago, she finally did. She moved in with her girlfriend, but after maybe two weeks she came back. After a week of being back, we got into it again and she left again. This time, it was for about a month and a half. The whole time she was gone, we still talked and sometimes I would even ask her to come home.
Last week or so, I text her I missed her, and she text me back the same. She then text message me that she didn't want to be single and she wasn't happy and the wanted to come home and work things out with me. After talking she admitted to seeing some other guy, but she said she was going to call it off. I accepted the mistake and told her we could get through it. ( early in our relationship, i was on unfaithful, one time!)
After a about 3 or 4 days of talking things out she left again. I asked why, and she told me she was positive on a HPT, and couldn"t look me in the face anymore. She said she was sorry and wished the child were mine.
After carefully thinking this over, I told her that we could work this out, yes even this. Mistakes happen and that shouldn't determine who your with.I poured out my heart to her, and now she doesn't want to talk about feelings. She says she is so stressed, and doesn't know what to do. She also says, the baby's father wants to be with her and so do I and it's too much stress for her, she'd rather do this alone. I told her to relax. She's been here with me the last few days, and I am afraid to talk about her feelings, i don't want her to stress, but at the same time, I don't know what she wants. I asked if I'm wasting her time, she says no. I asked if I'm going to wait for her forever to come around, she says no. I talk to her and sometimes I feel like I'm getting through to her, and other times I feel like she has this guard up. I told her that I believe in us and believe we can get through this, she said she believes that too. So what am I supposed to think if she doesn't want to talk. She says every time we talk or she hears me talk she can't help but cry, so we kinda keep things to a minimal. But when we sleep at night, she doesn't mind us cuddling and holding each other? Plus, she wanted to stay and work things out before she got prego, that should count for something right? anyone have anything for me? if you need more info, ask and I'll add it
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