Whats soon to be ex husbands problem?

Question

my soon 2 b ex husband always calls me in the middle of the nite. even when i asked him not to. last nite was the last straw. i told him stop calling me in the middle of the nite. dont call after 8pm. to stop drunk dialing me. he claims he doesnt but whateva. i think its disrespectful. he has something important to say he can call during normal hours like everybody else. he always says that it has something to do with is daughter n that he tries callin earlier but i never pick up. thats alie. he left me a message after i dont kno how many times callin last nite n said that he he wont call bc i never pick up. then turns around n calls again. i picked up n he asked to speak 2 his daughetr at 3 am ..whats his problem??

Answer 1

he is not the same person at night as he is by day. at night he misses his family, during the day he can be busy, but the nights are unbearable to him.

Answer 2

I would stop answering the phone. If you feel you have to answer it "just in case" as soon as it's confirmed as non-emergency you could politely but firmly say this isn't something you are willing discuss at this time of night and you'll call him back (or ask him to call you back) and give a convenient time frame.

Answer 3

get a restraining order against him. then if he calls, he can be arrested

Answer 4

Sounds to me like he is desperately sad and lonely.  Night time is always when we do our most worrying and thinking and the middle of the night is certainly the loneliest to be awake and along.  I would expect he is having difficulties accepting the separation.

Answer 5

This is all to common. When people are going through a divorce, they want to be apart but at the same time are so used to being together and knowing what the other person is doing that when they finally are apart its really hard to just let go. He may not want to be with you any more but he still needs to know what you are doing, thinking, hear your voice, etc. In a nut shell, he still wants to be able to effect you in some way. You have to start dealing with him like he is a business contact. Stop picking up you phone when he calls you. I am sure he can handle any issues with your Daughter on his own for a couple days at a time. Good luck, I hope everything works out with you.  

Answer 6

He's prob just jealous thinking your getting s*x with someone else and not him. Plus he is prob not getting any. I could be wrong, but I have seen this before.

Answer 7

Maybe he is just finding an excuse to hear or voice. I think he might miss you and don't really want to end the relationship and wants to find some way to talk to you without injuring his pride.  

Answer 8

s****t.